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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 613454"><p>Ours was truly lovely. PC19 came home from school Wednesday night, and my husbands sister, brother in law and her 3 sons (25,19,16) and her son's girlfriend (25) came from PA and stayed with us for 3 nights.</p><p></p><p>I hosted Thanksgiving dinner and we were joined for dinner by my brother, his wife and 21 yo son and my mom. I cooked the full meal but brother in law (he's a chef) brought pumpkin ravioli (to die for, amazing) and some pastry and my bro brought a delicious ham. My mom brought the wine and was a little disappointed I wouldn't let her bake the pies but got over it eventually <span style="font-size: 10px"><em>(she whined a lot about the pies, about me wearing a dress but telling her it was casual but otherwise was really great. FWIW, the pies are lot of work for her, she is newly moved into her house, got back from FL late Sunday night and has never used her oven there; plus she's 76 and slowing down A LOT. And my dress WAS casual, I like dresses bc they're easy to cook in. I'm not a meanie. She would have been in over her head baking pies)</em></span></p><p></p><p>difficult child was on his best behavior, schmoozed my mom to death <span style="font-size: 10px"><em>(which worries me a little, he was OTT and I wonder why; I have a bad case of other shoe syndrome</em></span>) and the houseful of boys had an awesome time. They all ran in our town's 5k early TG morning and played touch football outside for a few hours before dinner. It was really great. Made me cry it was so great.</p><p></p><p>DDD - I am laughing about your comments. I was way overwhelmed on Wednesday - between the cleaning and the cooking and trying to figure out sleeping arrangements and find enough towels for 7 house guests, I made 5 last minute trips to the store - and then I had a mini meltdown. I told H that "for once I would like to be a guest somewhere for a holiday. And I would be happy to do a few dishes in return..." I want to ring a doorbell wearing lipstick (something I seem to forget to put on in haste) and carrying a bottle of wine. And I'm happy to clear the table and load the dishwasher and later return to my clean, calm house. I am looking around at the disaster that is my house- tons of laundry to do, serving dishes to be put away, a fridge groaning under a ton of random leftovers...</p><p></p><p>My mom "does" Christmas - but she comes here to do all the cooking and I help her with it and then we transport it to her house on Christmas day; so it's a lot of work for me, AND I did Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve and Easter last year & prior years, no end in sight ... I have holiday overkill right now. Especially since I am back to work full time.</p><p></p><p>My other Bro who is newly estranged from the family (I've written about him in the past, married to overbearing busybody sister in law who interfered w difficult child and he's been dishonest in the family business but we still work together) didn't call or anything. His wife and 2 of his 3 (age 20,25) kids have cut off all contact with me and my kids abruptly and rudely. Friday morning, I went to send a (kind) message to his other son (age 24) with whom I was still in touch. I found that he too had defriended and blocked me sometime in the past 24 hours. I burst into tears. So, that wasn't great; a bit of a blemish on a really great weekend. I know that the table talk at Bro's house must have precipitated a surge in hostility and honestly, it hurts like hell. And I have to deal with it it in person nearly every day at work so I can't just rise above it gracefully; it gets to me.</p><p></p><p>Otherwise - we had a blast. I love my bro, brother in law, and both SILs. My nephews are all awesome. Nephew's girlfriend was really terrific and I loved getting to know her. We took visiting sister in law & brother in law to the Harley Davidson Museum yesterday and then out to dinner in downtown Milwaukee and had a fabulous time. I was sad to see them all go home this morning. I love them both.</p><p></p><p>As for difficult child - still treading water. You would think the water should have evaporated by now after being tread for so long - but here we are. He has been warm and cordial and on his best behavior while home but he is asleep nearly every moment he is here. I know he is broke and really not working. Overdraft notices come once in a while. He stays in "his" apt downtown a few nights a week purportedly to attend class in the city. I have no idea if he is really going but we should have a report card in a month. I am really nervous about that and the fact that he sleeps all day while here. Not much I can do, it will be what it is. I really hope I am wrong. A lot of "don't ask, don't tell" going on here, but he is respectful -and even loving - and we do not give him money. Not much more we can do, he is nearly 22 and this is his life. At least I know (for now) he has not descended into the depths of hard core addiction and he has a bit of a safety net in our home. He's not spiraling but I don't kid myself - I know he has a substance abuse problem and is likely doing a lot of things I wouldn't approve of - but he isn't doing them here. So I leave it alone.</p><p></p><p>Love to you all - this post is meandering and is about a heck of a lot more than Thanksgiving -I should change my name to verbose or chattycathy!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 613454"] Ours was truly lovely. PC19 came home from school Wednesday night, and my husbands sister, brother in law and her 3 sons (25,19,16) and her son's girlfriend (25) came from PA and stayed with us for 3 nights. I hosted Thanksgiving dinner and we were joined for dinner by my brother, his wife and 21 yo son and my mom. I cooked the full meal but brother in law (he's a chef) brought pumpkin ravioli (to die for, amazing) and some pastry and my bro brought a delicious ham. My mom brought the wine and was a little disappointed I wouldn't let her bake the pies but got over it eventually [SIZE=2][I](she whined a lot about the pies, about me wearing a dress but telling her it was casual but otherwise was really great. FWIW, the pies are lot of work for her, she is newly moved into her house, got back from FL late Sunday night and has never used her oven there; plus she's 76 and slowing down A LOT. And my dress WAS casual, I like dresses bc they're easy to cook in. I'm not a meanie. She would have been in over her head baking pies)[/I][/SIZE] difficult child was on his best behavior, schmoozed my mom to death [SIZE=2][I](which worries me a little, he was OTT and I wonder why; I have a bad case of other shoe syndrome[/I][/SIZE]) and the houseful of boys had an awesome time. They all ran in our town's 5k early TG morning and played touch football outside for a few hours before dinner. It was really great. Made me cry it was so great. DDD - I am laughing about your comments. I was way overwhelmed on Wednesday - between the cleaning and the cooking and trying to figure out sleeping arrangements and find enough towels for 7 house guests, I made 5 last minute trips to the store - and then I had a mini meltdown. I told H that "for once I would like to be a guest somewhere for a holiday. And I would be happy to do a few dishes in return..." I want to ring a doorbell wearing lipstick (something I seem to forget to put on in haste) and carrying a bottle of wine. And I'm happy to clear the table and load the dishwasher and later return to my clean, calm house. I am looking around at the disaster that is my house- tons of laundry to do, serving dishes to be put away, a fridge groaning under a ton of random leftovers... My mom "does" Christmas - but she comes here to do all the cooking and I help her with it and then we transport it to her house on Christmas day; so it's a lot of work for me, AND I did Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve and Easter last year & prior years, no end in sight ... I have holiday overkill right now. Especially since I am back to work full time. My other Bro who is newly estranged from the family (I've written about him in the past, married to overbearing busybody sister in law who interfered w difficult child and he's been dishonest in the family business but we still work together) didn't call or anything. His wife and 2 of his 3 (age 20,25) kids have cut off all contact with me and my kids abruptly and rudely. Friday morning, I went to send a (kind) message to his other son (age 24) with whom I was still in touch. I found that he too had defriended and blocked me sometime in the past 24 hours. I burst into tears. So, that wasn't great; a bit of a blemish on a really great weekend. I know that the table talk at Bro's house must have precipitated a surge in hostility and honestly, it hurts like hell. And I have to deal with it it in person nearly every day at work so I can't just rise above it gracefully; it gets to me. Otherwise - we had a blast. I love my bro, brother in law, and both SILs. My nephews are all awesome. Nephew's girlfriend was really terrific and I loved getting to know her. We took visiting sister in law & brother in law to the Harley Davidson Museum yesterday and then out to dinner in downtown Milwaukee and had a fabulous time. I was sad to see them all go home this morning. I love them both. As for difficult child - still treading water. You would think the water should have evaporated by now after being tread for so long - but here we are. He has been warm and cordial and on his best behavior while home but he is asleep nearly every moment he is here. I know he is broke and really not working. Overdraft notices come once in a while. He stays in "his" apt downtown a few nights a week purportedly to attend class in the city. I have no idea if he is really going but we should have a report card in a month. I am really nervous about that and the fact that he sleeps all day while here. Not much I can do, it will be what it is. I really hope I am wrong. A lot of "don't ask, don't tell" going on here, but he is respectful -and even loving - and we do not give him money. Not much more we can do, he is nearly 22 and this is his life. At least I know (for now) he has not descended into the depths of hard core addiction and he has a bit of a safety net in our home. He's not spiraling but I don't kid myself - I know he has a substance abuse problem and is likely doing a lot of things I wouldn't approve of - but he isn't doing them here. So I leave it alone. Love to you all - this post is meandering and is about a heck of a lot more than Thanksgiving -I should change my name to verbose or chattycathy! [/QUOTE]
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