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How do I deal with the hurt
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<blockquote data-quote="DazedandConfused" data-source="post: 620312" data-attributes="member: 831"><p>I wish I had some sage advice about how to deal with the hurt. You got some good information and thoughts from others though. </p><p></p><p>For me, I'm a big aching ball of hurt for the most part these days. My difficult child's treat me with such contempt sometimes that it's almost too much to bear. I know I made some mistakes, probably some doozies, but overall I worked hard to provide my children a loving and stable home that I never had; thinking that I, through sheer will was going to stop the vicious cycle of alcohol and drug abuse, depression, along with mental illness, that runs strong in both of husband and my family lines. </p><p></p><p>I was no pushover. I tried to be firm, yet loving. Do everything the "right" way. However, I was in no way prepared for the maelstrom of child rearing that was/is motherhood for me. I was so desperate to fix IT, fix THEM. Yet, despite my best efforts (Doctors, counseling,testing, medications) , I have one adult difficult child who is pretty much a mess for the most part, and one who will be turning 18 in a few months, who just walked out of the house slamming the door in my face simply because I asked him the name of the friend whose house he is going to go hang out at. </p><p></p><p>I agree about focusing on your child left at home and your husband.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DazedandConfused, post: 620312, member: 831"] I wish I had some sage advice about how to deal with the hurt. You got some good information and thoughts from others though. For me, I'm a big aching ball of hurt for the most part these days. My difficult child's treat me with such contempt sometimes that it's almost too much to bear. I know I made some mistakes, probably some doozies, but overall I worked hard to provide my children a loving and stable home that I never had; thinking that I, through sheer will was going to stop the vicious cycle of alcohol and drug abuse, depression, along with mental illness, that runs strong in both of husband and my family lines. I was no pushover. I tried to be firm, yet loving. Do everything the "right" way. However, I was in no way prepared for the maelstrom of child rearing that was/is motherhood for me. I was so desperate to fix IT, fix THEM. Yet, despite my best efforts (Doctors, counseling,testing, medications) , I have one adult difficult child who is pretty much a mess for the most part, and one who will be turning 18 in a few months, who just walked out of the house slamming the door in my face simply because I asked him the name of the friend whose house he is going to go hang out at. I agree about focusing on your child left at home and your husband. [/QUOTE]
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