I am trying to figure out how to explain difficult child's issues to easy child to help him understand why difficult child "has it easier" at school and why I handle things at home differently for difficult child than I do easy child. easy child is very intelligent and capable and responsible does awesome in school with very little help. He is also a twin to difficult child so he doesn't understand that difficult child is not like him and that is why things are handled differently at school and at home. I also think that difficult child doing well is causing confusion?, jealousy?, anger? for easy child. When difficult child would have a meltdown, easy child went off by himself during it but then after difficult child calmed down, I would feel sorry for easy child so he and I would spend some time just talking or playing a game. Now that difficult child is doing better, they play with each other until easy child causes a problem (I think to try to get difficult child into trouble) which backfires because easy child ends up in trouble for causing the problem and difficult child is having a meltdown which means I have to calm difficult child down and discipline easy child. Now it's either they are getting along well or ther is total chaos, no time for me to have 1:1 time with easy child. I'm not sure how to explain difficult child-ness to easy child so we can have peace in our house and so he doesn't feel left out or angry or jealous or confused or ???? at difficult child's "special treatment" at home and school.