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How do I go about getting my son to move out
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 466148" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>by the way, for as much as I say that an addict is OUT, it took me a LONG time to get there. For the last 8-10 yrs my gfgbro's main addiction/bad behavior that anyone saw is being abusive to me, my husband and my kids. He always felt he had the right to do anything he wanted to me because he was "in charge" of me. It didn't stop when I became an adult, when I married it just put another person into that category in his mind, and when I had kids it added more people. Getting sober did not change it at all.</p><p></p><p>The first time someone told me that he was toxic to me and I needed to cut him out of my life I was 18 or 19, writing other people's term papers to pay for therapy so I didn't have to tell my parents about it. It was well over 20 years before I made that break. Just last year, in fact. It still feels strange sometimes, but it has been one of the most peaceful years of my life. ANd I have learned a LOT of scary stuff that my kids hid from me that he did to them. Not with, to.</p><p></p><p>So i totally understand that you are at the BEGINNING of this journey, and no one here, not me or anyone else, expects you to walk in, tell your difficult child to get out by fri or whenever, and feel great about it. Right now you have to start to get YOU healthy. And that starts with alanon and a therapist.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 466148, member: 1233"] by the way, for as much as I say that an addict is OUT, it took me a LONG time to get there. For the last 8-10 yrs my gfgbro's main addiction/bad behavior that anyone saw is being abusive to me, my husband and my kids. He always felt he had the right to do anything he wanted to me because he was "in charge" of me. It didn't stop when I became an adult, when I married it just put another person into that category in his mind, and when I had kids it added more people. Getting sober did not change it at all. The first time someone told me that he was toxic to me and I needed to cut him out of my life I was 18 or 19, writing other people's term papers to pay for therapy so I didn't have to tell my parents about it. It was well over 20 years before I made that break. Just last year, in fact. It still feels strange sometimes, but it has been one of the most peaceful years of my life. ANd I have learned a LOT of scary stuff that my kids hid from me that he did to them. Not with, to. So i totally understand that you are at the BEGINNING of this journey, and no one here, not me or anyone else, expects you to walk in, tell your difficult child to get out by fri or whenever, and feel great about it. Right now you have to start to get YOU healthy. And that starts with alanon and a therapist. [/QUOTE]
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