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How do I go about getting my son to move out
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 467728" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I threw my daughter out and she even had a place to go (her extremely straight arrow brother took her in under very strict conditions). She did have to go out-of-state, however. I cried for three weeks after she said, "I will hate you forever."</p><p></p><p>Well, Brother would not put up with any of her nonsense and s he realized she was a step out the door if she even lit up a cigarette. She had to work but had no car so she walked to work at a Subway. Then she got promoted to manager. Then she met her boyfriend who did not do drugs. And she was very far away from her druggie friends. Although she was lonely, and had to work hard at her brother's house (he also had a few roommates), she stopped using drugs completely and even quit smoking. She had chores she had to do and she did the cooking. This became the highlight of her day...she had always enjoyed cooking, but had never really had to feed anybody who was not related to her, like her brother's roommates who would come home from work tired and hungry. She had a REAL knack for cooking and experimented and reaped high praise and decided to make it her career.</p><p></p><p>It's been nine years now. She has gone to college and is a chef at the school she went to. It pays quite well and she loves her job and works very, very hard. They are thinking of sending her to more college so she can become a pastry chef teacher, because she is such a gifted pastry chef (won many contests). She owns her own home. She lives a quiet but productive life and is a joy to her entire family. She thinks that throwing her out was the best thing that ever happened to her...she told me she doubted she would have seen how useless her life was if we had allowed her to stay at home while mistreating us and herself. </p><p></p><p>in my opinion it is worse to allow them to stay than to make them leave. They have no incentive to change if they believe Daddy or Mommy will always make it better. Trust me, Daughter had MANY second chances and many tearful "I promise it will never happen agains." Finally...I had to think of the younger kids and my husband.</p><p></p><p>I am happy I did what I did (and so is Daughter) even though both of us were devastated at the time!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 467728, member: 1550"] I threw my daughter out and she even had a place to go (her extremely straight arrow brother took her in under very strict conditions). She did have to go out-of-state, however. I cried for three weeks after she said, "I will hate you forever." Well, Brother would not put up with any of her nonsense and s he realized she was a step out the door if she even lit up a cigarette. She had to work but had no car so she walked to work at a Subway. Then she got promoted to manager. Then she met her boyfriend who did not do drugs. And she was very far away from her druggie friends. Although she was lonely, and had to work hard at her brother's house (he also had a few roommates), she stopped using drugs completely and even quit smoking. She had chores she had to do and she did the cooking. This became the highlight of her day...she had always enjoyed cooking, but had never really had to feed anybody who was not related to her, like her brother's roommates who would come home from work tired and hungry. She had a REAL knack for cooking and experimented and reaped high praise and decided to make it her career. It's been nine years now. She has gone to college and is a chef at the school she went to. It pays quite well and she loves her job and works very, very hard. They are thinking of sending her to more college so she can become a pastry chef teacher, because she is such a gifted pastry chef (won many contests). She owns her own home. She lives a quiet but productive life and is a joy to her entire family. She thinks that throwing her out was the best thing that ever happened to her...she told me she doubted she would have seen how useless her life was if we had allowed her to stay at home while mistreating us and herself. in my opinion it is worse to allow them to stay than to make them leave. They have no incentive to change if they believe Daddy or Mommy will always make it better. Trust me, Daughter had MANY second chances and many tearful "I promise it will never happen agains." Finally...I had to think of the younger kids and my husband. I am happy I did what I did (and so is Daughter) even though both of us were devastated at the time! [/QUOTE]
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