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How do I go about getting my son to move out
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<blockquote data-quote="Elsieshaye" data-source="post: 467820" data-attributes="member: 12928"><p>Yesterday, I was putting away someting in DS's dresser, and discovered that he had brought his bong back. One of the things I demanded as a condition for letting him stay was that it be removed from my home. I threw it away (far away from home so that he couldn't just dig it out of the trash). In retaliation, he threw away something of my mother's, which I didn't discover until this morning.</p><p></p><p>I asked him to leave immediately and got the keys back. It took him about an hour and a half, but he's gone now. I've let the building manager know that he's gone, and asked her to get my locks changed. I really want to leave the house right now, but I'm a little bit concerned that he might try to get back in. (I have to go to work tomorrow, so hopefully he won't try anything.) Is it bad that I'm hoping that the building manager calls the cops if he comes back?</p><p></p><p>The saddest part for me is that his ranting at me while he was packing up sounded just like stuff his father told me when I left. The upshot was that the only reason his behaviors were a problem for me were that I was choosing to make them a problem, and that I was a coward who "threw people away" at the first sign of trouble or conflict. Paradoxically, all that did (both with DS and with the ex) is reinforce that I made the right decision. Nobody but an abuser belittles you for refusing to take abuse.</p><p></p><p>I left a message with a friend to call me, because the shock is wearing off and the sadness and freaking out is setting in.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsieshaye, post: 467820, member: 12928"] Yesterday, I was putting away someting in DS's dresser, and discovered that he had brought his bong back. One of the things I demanded as a condition for letting him stay was that it be removed from my home. I threw it away (far away from home so that he couldn't just dig it out of the trash). In retaliation, he threw away something of my mother's, which I didn't discover until this morning. I asked him to leave immediately and got the keys back. It took him about an hour and a half, but he's gone now. I've let the building manager know that he's gone, and asked her to get my locks changed. I really want to leave the house right now, but I'm a little bit concerned that he might try to get back in. (I have to go to work tomorrow, so hopefully he won't try anything.) Is it bad that I'm hoping that the building manager calls the cops if he comes back? The saddest part for me is that his ranting at me while he was packing up sounded just like stuff his father told me when I left. The upshot was that the only reason his behaviors were a problem for me were that I was choosing to make them a problem, and that I was a coward who "threw people away" at the first sign of trouble or conflict. Paradoxically, all that did (both with DS and with the ex) is reinforce that I made the right decision. Nobody but an abuser belittles you for refusing to take abuse. I left a message with a friend to call me, because the shock is wearing off and the sadness and freaking out is setting in. [/QUOTE]
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