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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 405827" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Pam, I think you've received excellent advice from the others about how to handle this situation with your friend, and I agree that it doesn't have to be a friendship-ender.</p><p></p><p>I just want to add one small thought:</p><p>I've learned over the years that I don't have to explain, defend or apologize for my parenting decisions. Defending and/or apologizing seems to lead people to think that they have permission to comment, and some say in how you handle parenting matters. Not a path you want to go down, especially when raising a difficult child.</p><p></p><p>However you address this with your friends, I would try not to do it in such a way that it invites opinion, or comment, or advice, or whatever. It's a delicate balancing act, but it can help to keep resentment out of a friendship where the other friend just can't understand the depth of what you're dealing with. It's sort of a variant of "Never let 'em see you sweat."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 405827, member: 3907"] Pam, I think you've received excellent advice from the others about how to handle this situation with your friend, and I agree that it doesn't have to be a friendship-ender. I just want to add one small thought: I've learned over the years that I don't have to explain, defend or apologize for my parenting decisions. Defending and/or apologizing seems to lead people to think that they have permission to comment, and some say in how you handle parenting matters. Not a path you want to go down, especially when raising a difficult child. However you address this with your friends, I would try not to do it in such a way that it invites opinion, or comment, or advice, or whatever. It's a delicate balancing act, but it can help to keep resentment out of a friendship where the other friend just can't understand the depth of what you're dealing with. It's sort of a variant of "Never let 'em see you sweat." [/QUOTE]
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