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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 390693" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Susie, I'm afraid you're going to have to have a heart to heart with the girl. That's all their is too it.</p><p></p><p>Svcking it up and grinning and baring it are wonderful.........to a point. When it deters from proper dxing and treatment, it's time to cut the tough act and let how you feel <strong>show</strong>.</p><p></p><p>I'm going to tell you this from a profession stand point. If Jess does not look like she is in pain to the staff.......eventually they will stop believing she is in pain and instead believe it's an act for attention or whatever. Ok, not everyone believes you have to be writhing to be in pain........but unless a staff member knows what chronic pain is like........they're gong to take her at face value. And if that face is grinning and taking walks that are putting her in agony but not complaining or showing it........they're going to think she's faking it.</p><p></p><p>Then they'll stop listening to a word either one of you have to say. Her chances at a proper diagnosis drop. Her chances for proper treatment drop.</p><p></p><p>If she hurts, you need to tell her that while in the hospital she has no reason to hold it back. They need to<strong> see how she is feeling</strong>, not just to hear it. If it's too painful for a trip to the library, no matter how badly she wants to go, have her ask for a wheelchair or someone go for her.</p><p></p><p>Seriously. This is no time for the stiff upper lip routine.</p><p></p><p>I had to have this talk with Nichole who does the same thing. (she got it from me who used to do it until my mom, also a nurse, drummed it into my head to show how I feel to medication pros) She was in renal failure by the time she got it through her head she had to show them, not just tell them. ugh!</p><p></p><p>There is a time and a place to put on the brave face and just deal. The hospital is not that place.</p><p></p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 390693, member: 84"] Susie, I'm afraid you're going to have to have a heart to heart with the girl. That's all their is too it. Svcking it up and grinning and baring it are wonderful.........to a point. When it deters from proper dxing and treatment, it's time to cut the tough act and let how you feel [B]show[/B]. I'm going to tell you this from a profession stand point. If Jess does not look like she is in pain to the staff.......eventually they will stop believing she is in pain and instead believe it's an act for attention or whatever. Ok, not everyone believes you have to be writhing to be in pain........but unless a staff member knows what chronic pain is like........they're gong to take her at face value. And if that face is grinning and taking walks that are putting her in agony but not complaining or showing it........they're going to think she's faking it. Then they'll stop listening to a word either one of you have to say. Her chances at a proper diagnosis drop. Her chances for proper treatment drop. If she hurts, you need to tell her that while in the hospital she has no reason to hold it back. They need to[B] see how she is feeling[/B], not just to hear it. If it's too painful for a trip to the library, no matter how badly she wants to go, have her ask for a wheelchair or someone go for her. Seriously. This is no time for the stiff upper lip routine. I had to have this talk with Nichole who does the same thing. (she got it from me who used to do it until my mom, also a nurse, drummed it into my head to show how I feel to medication pros) She was in renal failure by the time she got it through her head she had to show them, not just tell them. ugh! There is a time and a place to put on the brave face and just deal. The hospital is not that place. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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