My son is ADHD and has depression. he vandalized our private school last year with some friends, was involved with juvenille and treated for depression but now seemed better. Beginning this year he had a B average and it's slipped to a C. This is what his teachers said: "He is very lethargic in class. He only recently started to take notes after I said I was going to base a daily grade on them. He can be disruptive at times and talks back. In Chemistry,he is not doing so well. He doesn't make a huge effort to take notes in class, he has turned in papers late and doesn't seem to study at all outside of class. He went from an 83 the first nine weeks to a 67 this nine weeks. He likes to socialize in class. His test grades are in the 70's and classwork/homework is in the 50's. World History: academically--not too bad but he could do better. He's very disinterested and doesn't participate much. He constantly tries to sleep and, because I make him stay awake and take notes, he inserts rude comments toward other students and constantly disrupts. Today he just sat there quietly and tried 4 or 5 times to lay his head down and sleep. 75 in Pre AP English II says a lot. He seems angry and argumentative. He appears aloof and annoyed by those around him including teachers. Very arrogant. MORE than half the time he's got his head down on his desk...extremely tired... He's not really interested in geometry, but sometimes he'll seem to act that way. He really doesn't act-up in class." He was confronted at a sports match two days ago by a mom who accused him of bullying teachers and (when she was confronted by us) told us that kids don't like him. he's rude and thinks he's being funny has a bad reputation, etc. As some of you know, he got into Rap and that music has crystalized in his personality: a thug. But as a mom I know him to be sweet and sensitive, talented (he had the lead role in our musical) and really just wants so badly to be liked and loved. We found a school that is outrageously expensive but caters to learning difference kids. We are thinking of moving him immediately. MY QUESTION: How do I tell him? Do I tell him of these observations and allow him the opportunity to change and stay which I think would be pretty devistating? Or just not tell him others observations and keep it positive and then just change schools? He didn't want to return to this school this year but we didn't have a choice we thought. Now we feel like the writing is very clear on the wall. Either way we are going to begin couseling-he sees a psychiatrist and is on Zoloft only. Any thoughts?