lovemychocolate
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difficult child has not been officially diagosed yet, but he is probablly odd and asperger's. Friday was a bad day at school. When I picked him up I could tell by the look on his face. It was RIF day and he came home bookless. He says that he and his friend, J, went together to get their books. My difficult child shows J the book he wants to get and J grabs the book instead. difficult child spends the rest of the day stewing. He says he talked to the school vp, but she was gone. I called the librarian and she told me they have extra books for kids and they can pick up on Monday and Tuesday.
difficult child wouldn't get in the car, so we sat on the curb and on the sidewalk for almost an hour--with his sister in tow. difficult child was angry and this is when the fixations happen. I mirrored his feelings and was emphathetic to his situation. I asked if we could go to Border's to find a similar or even better book--He was yelling and crying--not one of his worse explosions, but I realized that he has been having many fixations recently.He said only that book was the book he wanted, he wanted NOTHING else! I diffused him for the time being, but when we got home, he got angry again and wanted to be alone. He kept coming out of his room and throwing things and slamming his door. I did find time to talk about what to do when he's angry. I gave him options and told him which behaviors I didn't want to see: slamming doors, being mean to his siblings.
The next day we went to the park and along the way he found some used, scratch off lottery tix. He loves finding these, but got dissapointed when he realized there was no excess silver stuff to wipe away. He had a meltdown and he was screaming, crying in the middle of the park. He goes extreme with his thinking and from this situation he extrapolates that he NEVER finds good lottery tix. He continued to yell and cry for the next 30 minutes. I had his siblings with us, so I had to tend to them.
He came over to us in the playground area and when he was calm I asked him if he understood why people had thrown away the lottery tix? I tried to insert some logic into the situation as difficult child usually very logic oriented. I kept it brief and then asked difficult child to play with us. He wanted instead, for me to give him things to do, How many times can you do ___. I made him get tired out with the physical activity and he actually later thanked me for helping him calm down.
I'm already dreading what will play out tomorrow when difficult child see's "J" and the book issue comes up. How do I help prepare difficult child for tomorrow when all his emotions about the stiation with J getting his book come up?
difficult child wouldn't get in the car, so we sat on the curb and on the sidewalk for almost an hour--with his sister in tow. difficult child was angry and this is when the fixations happen. I mirrored his feelings and was emphathetic to his situation. I asked if we could go to Border's to find a similar or even better book--He was yelling and crying--not one of his worse explosions, but I realized that he has been having many fixations recently.He said only that book was the book he wanted, he wanted NOTHING else! I diffused him for the time being, but when we got home, he got angry again and wanted to be alone. He kept coming out of his room and throwing things and slamming his door. I did find time to talk about what to do when he's angry. I gave him options and told him which behaviors I didn't want to see: slamming doors, being mean to his siblings.
The next day we went to the park and along the way he found some used, scratch off lottery tix. He loves finding these, but got dissapointed when he realized there was no excess silver stuff to wipe away. He had a meltdown and he was screaming, crying in the middle of the park. He goes extreme with his thinking and from this situation he extrapolates that he NEVER finds good lottery tix. He continued to yell and cry for the next 30 minutes. I had his siblings with us, so I had to tend to them.
He came over to us in the playground area and when he was calm I asked him if he understood why people had thrown away the lottery tix? I tried to insert some logic into the situation as difficult child usually very logic oriented. I kept it brief and then asked difficult child to play with us. He wanted instead, for me to give him things to do, How many times can you do ___. I made him get tired out with the physical activity and he actually later thanked me for helping him calm down.
I'm already dreading what will play out tomorrow when difficult child see's "J" and the book issue comes up. How do I help prepare difficult child for tomorrow when all his emotions about the stiation with J getting his book come up?