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How do you all handle Christmas?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 744692" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I dont have a child nobody wants to be around that lives near me. I am grateful that this one son, who has been mean to his siblings, is not livinglaround here.</p><p></p><p> But if he were and did not behave well at family gatherings, I would not invite him. I would not make my nice kids feel that they couldnt come because he is 40 and cant act his age. And I wouldnt punish myself either. Im not young anymore. I earned peace and happy holidays.</p><p></p><p>If my son wanted to exchange presents, it would be alone in a crowded restaurant so that he had to be pleasant because of the crowd. Fortunately he lives five hours away and is phobic abouf driving so he wont drive up here and I like my holiday in my area. Im not leaving the rest of the family to see just him.</p><p></p><p> To his extreme credit, he doesnt care or get angry about it. He would rather spend Christmas with just my grandson. He is a big loner and doesnt expect me to make a special trip for him. It works out as everyone else gets along great. And I always talk to my son and grandson on the phone to wish them Merry Christmas.</p><p></p><p>It sounds as if your daughter is challenged. That doesnt mean she cant be pleasant. If your only way out of a nasty holiday is to travel, by all means do it!</p><p></p><p> In my opinion it is time to take care of yourself first and let your adult daughter be nasty somewhere else. You cant fix her and she has to learn to take care of herself without you. You wont be here forever. Enjoy your golden years on your terms!</p><p></p><p>One last comment. I am not as nice as you. If any of my kids or my husband or aunt or friend or kissing cousin EVER complained about a gift to me, they would never get abnother one. I am not rich enough to tjrough my money around and would never myself not be gracious about a gift. Even my reclusive son is polite when he receives gifts. Your daughter not thanking you was very rude. How old is she?</p><p></p><p>Are you doing the hosting this year? How does your adult daughter behave that puts off your son?</p><p></p><p>Love and light!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 744692, member: 1550"] I dont have a child nobody wants to be around that lives near me. I am grateful that this one son, who has been mean to his siblings, is not livinglaround here. But if he were and did not behave well at family gatherings, I would not invite him. I would not make my nice kids feel that they couldnt come because he is 40 and cant act his age. And I wouldnt punish myself either. Im not young anymore. I earned peace and happy holidays. If my son wanted to exchange presents, it would be alone in a crowded restaurant so that he had to be pleasant because of the crowd. Fortunately he lives five hours away and is phobic abouf driving so he wont drive up here and I like my holiday in my area. Im not leaving the rest of the family to see just him. To his extreme credit, he doesnt care or get angry about it. He would rather spend Christmas with just my grandson. He is a big loner and doesnt expect me to make a special trip for him. It works out as everyone else gets along great. And I always talk to my son and grandson on the phone to wish them Merry Christmas. It sounds as if your daughter is challenged. That doesnt mean she cant be pleasant. If your only way out of a nasty holiday is to travel, by all means do it! In my opinion it is time to take care of yourself first and let your adult daughter be nasty somewhere else. You cant fix her and she has to learn to take care of herself without you. You wont be here forever. Enjoy your golden years on your terms! One last comment. I am not as nice as you. If any of my kids or my husband or aunt or friend or kissing cousin EVER complained about a gift to me, they would never get abnother one. I am not rich enough to tjrough my money around and would never myself not be gracious about a gift. Even my reclusive son is polite when he receives gifts. Your daughter not thanking you was very rude. How old is she? Are you doing the hosting this year? How does your adult daughter behave that puts off your son? Love and light! [/QUOTE]
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