Malika
Well-Known Member
when someone is, or seems to be, gratuitiously rude to you?
Question arises because of an incident with some neighbours today who, without going into all the tedious nitty gritty of the details, were really disrespectful and unfair in the way they tackled something, immediately assuming I was the guilty party for something when there was no reason to do so. No reason to do so other than that I/we are not from the village, not French (well, my mother's French and I have French nationality but I'm obviously English in my culture, thinking and accent ) and I am a single parent, etc, etc. I feel quite upset by this sort of thing, even though I know that I am just adding fuel to the fire by continuining on the suffering in my mind afterwards...
I immediately went and talked to them about why they were wrong in the assumptions they were making, which didn't even seem to have much effect other than seeming to make them look down on me even further...
So I'm just interested... how do you handle it when someone is unfair or rude to you for no reason? Of course Americans are more forthright than we shrinking English violets so many of you probably give as good as you get...
Question arises because of an incident with some neighbours today who, without going into all the tedious nitty gritty of the details, were really disrespectful and unfair in the way they tackled something, immediately assuming I was the guilty party for something when there was no reason to do so. No reason to do so other than that I/we are not from the village, not French (well, my mother's French and I have French nationality but I'm obviously English in my culture, thinking and accent ) and I am a single parent, etc, etc. I feel quite upset by this sort of thing, even though I know that I am just adding fuel to the fire by continuining on the suffering in my mind afterwards...
I immediately went and talked to them about why they were wrong in the assumptions they were making, which didn't even seem to have much effect other than seeming to make them look down on me even further...
So I'm just interested... how do you handle it when someone is unfair or rude to you for no reason? Of course Americans are more forthright than we shrinking English violets so many of you probably give as good as you get...