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how do you deal with the feelings of guilt?
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<blockquote data-quote="Big Bad Kitty" data-source="post: 143791" data-attributes="member: 3647"><p>Nette,</p><p></p><p>Star's words are very wise.</p><p></p><p>I was much like your difficult child at one time. Not the same circumstances, but the same line of thinking. My mom raised 3 kids, and wondered how she could have failed me. Wondered what she did wrong. She did nothing wrong. The best thing she did for me, when I was out of control, was take my daughter from me and tell me to hit the bricks. </p><p></p><p>It took me awhile, but I got clean. </p><p></p><p>That daughter is now 20 and doing well. I am now raising another daughter who is 7, and I am doing it right. My mom detached, and it was the hardest thing she ever did. I hated her for awhile, but now I love her dearly for it. My older daughter likely would have died if Mom had not intervened. She knew that she was taking a chance at losing me forever by kicking me out, but she also knew that by continuing to enable me, she was watching me die a slow death anyway. </p><p></p><p>I am a success story. I hope that this gives you hope. I am so sorry for you hurting mommy (and grandma) heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Big Bad Kitty, post: 143791, member: 3647"] Nette, Star's words are very wise. I was much like your difficult child at one time. Not the same circumstances, but the same line of thinking. My mom raised 3 kids, and wondered how she could have failed me. Wondered what she did wrong. She did nothing wrong. The best thing she did for me, when I was out of control, was take my daughter from me and tell me to hit the bricks. It took me awhile, but I got clean. That daughter is now 20 and doing well. I am now raising another daughter who is 7, and I am doing it right. My mom detached, and it was the hardest thing she ever did. I hated her for awhile, but now I love her dearly for it. My older daughter likely would have died if Mom had not intervened. She knew that she was taking a chance at losing me forever by kicking me out, but she also knew that by continuing to enable me, she was watching me die a slow death anyway. I am a success story. I hope that this gives you hope. I am so sorry for you hurting mommy (and grandma) heart. [/QUOTE]
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