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How do you deal with your difficult child's insults, etc?
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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 493001" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>Malika -- Matt would do the same thing. He would go off the deep end if I "took" something away as a consequence. </p><p></p><p>Starting with safe behavior is a good base because then J can understand it is because you love him and don't want him to be hurt in any way. Especially at his age this will feel comforting and warm to him.</p><p></p><p> With Matt I got VERY creative with consequences - and gosh - I can barely think of them right now. I know one that worked very well is making him "work" as a consequence. Making him go rake leaves, pull weeds, take the dog for a walk, ride his bike 3 times around the block, or write me an apology letter, etc....those types of things worked much better than me snatching up his Xbox for a week. Another one I would use is, instead of taking away tv time, I would only let him watch educational tv. I just really tried to think outside of the box to still implement a consequence, but not one that involved "taking something away" in his mind. I don't know if that was the right thing to do or not. I know a lot of parents on this board are a lot more black and white than I was - and maybe that is more what Matt needed. I don't know. As a single working Mom, like you, I did as much as I could without losing my mind.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 493001, member: 3301"] Malika -- Matt would do the same thing. He would go off the deep end if I "took" something away as a consequence. Starting with safe behavior is a good base because then J can understand it is because you love him and don't want him to be hurt in any way. Especially at his age this will feel comforting and warm to him. With Matt I got VERY creative with consequences - and gosh - I can barely think of them right now. I know one that worked very well is making him "work" as a consequence. Making him go rake leaves, pull weeds, take the dog for a walk, ride his bike 3 times around the block, or write me an apology letter, etc....those types of things worked much better than me snatching up his Xbox for a week. Another one I would use is, instead of taking away tv time, I would only let him watch educational tv. I just really tried to think outside of the box to still implement a consequence, but not one that involved "taking something away" in his mind. I don't know if that was the right thing to do or not. I know a lot of parents on this board are a lot more black and white than I was - and maybe that is more what Matt needed. I don't know. As a single working Mom, like you, I did as much as I could without losing my mind. [/QUOTE]
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