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How do you deal with your difficult child's insults, etc?
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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 493244" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>Malika,</p><p>I agree with DDD-on both accounts-consequences are important (the world runs on them both naturally and man made-can't avoid it), and to be consistant with your style. I am and have always been a pretty strict and structured parent. The "bumpy bunny thing" just fit my style-it made it easy to be positive and consistant. I used all kinds of tokens-we had a token economy (still use one in my classroom). The "toy" is a token (for the child) and yes it gets time out (in this day of electronics maybe the toy is computer/t.v./game) or moved along or back.</p><p></p><p>It is just a lot of work raising kids. A difficult child takes our energy 2 fold. When my kids were J's age-I felt as if I had no life-work and home. It was double bad because there were so few neighborhood friends. No break for me-or only occational breaks. My husband worked nights during a lot of this time as well! </p><p></p><p> I have to tell you in 25 years of teaching, I have never had a kid that didn't respond to something which had positive consequences. I have had to work to find the motivatrion and often come up with something individual-but it can happen.</p><p></p><p>I really think all these issues can be handled he can learn more and more self-control. By the way, putting other's needs before his is not even developmentally normal at his age (not even at age 12 is it solid). Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 493244, member: 11001"] Malika, I agree with DDD-on both accounts-consequences are important (the world runs on them both naturally and man made-can't avoid it), and to be consistant with your style. I am and have always been a pretty strict and structured parent. The "bumpy bunny thing" just fit my style-it made it easy to be positive and consistant. I used all kinds of tokens-we had a token economy (still use one in my classroom). The "toy" is a token (for the child) and yes it gets time out (in this day of electronics maybe the toy is computer/t.v./game) or moved along or back. It is just a lot of work raising kids. A difficult child takes our energy 2 fold. When my kids were J's age-I felt as if I had no life-work and home. It was double bad because there were so few neighborhood friends. No break for me-or only occational breaks. My husband worked nights during a lot of this time as well! I have to tell you in 25 years of teaching, I have never had a kid that didn't respond to something which had positive consequences. I have had to work to find the motivatrion and often come up with something individual-but it can happen. I really think all these issues can be handled he can learn more and more self-control. By the way, putting other's needs before his is not even developmentally normal at his age (not even at age 12 is it solid). Hugs [/QUOTE]
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