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<blockquote data-quote="mazdamama" data-source="post: 493649" data-attributes="member: 12227"><p>Malika...just read your post and boy does he sound like my David. I have just sent his brother off to a residential center for mental health help that I could not give him. Now I will have more time with David who is developmentally delayed but also high functioning autistic. He has learned some bad habits from his big bro and I need to get those things under control while Daniel is gone.</p><p>David will tell me he wishes I was dead, calls me an imbecile, idiot, and some words that I cannot post on here. In the past few days with Daniel gone he has quieted a little bit. BUT he KNOWS when he calls me these things there is a consequence. Like some other children with a brain injury...which he has....normal punishments do not work with him. Some things...well I have been told because I was dealing with two of them against one for a very long time...to pick my battles with the boys. David does get a few pops on his butt when he does something wrong and for the mouth....when it needs some cleaning out I was told to use vinegar. All I have to do is put some on my finger and rub it on his tongue and you would think I had murdered him...lol. </p><p>Neither of these forms of punishment can cause me a problem with DCF as you can spank your child with your bare hand on his /her buttocks. As for the vinegar I was told that using hot sauce was a no no but vinegar is in many of the foods we eat and would not be abusive in nature to clean that bad mouth out.</p><p>I recall a day not to long ago when I had told David before we even went into WalMart that I had only a small amount of money and I needed to get some things but would not be buying him a toy. As soon as we got into the store he started up and I just said "NO"...well with me about 15 ft behind him he was walking down the big isle behind the registers crying his eyes out. I saw an associate stop him and assume she asked him if he had lost his mommy because what I heard from him loudly was "NO, THERE SHE IS THE BIG FAT MEANIE!!" pointing back to me.</p><p></p><p>Anyhow, those on the only two things that work with him. The pops on the butt....well he is not used to being popped on the butt and thinks his butt is bleeding when he gets one. Vinegar....all I have to do is say I am getting the bottle out and he shuts up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mazdamama, post: 493649, member: 12227"] Malika...just read your post and boy does he sound like my David. I have just sent his brother off to a residential center for mental health help that I could not give him. Now I will have more time with David who is developmentally delayed but also high functioning autistic. He has learned some bad habits from his big bro and I need to get those things under control while Daniel is gone. David will tell me he wishes I was dead, calls me an imbecile, idiot, and some words that I cannot post on here. In the past few days with Daniel gone he has quieted a little bit. BUT he KNOWS when he calls me these things there is a consequence. Like some other children with a brain injury...which he has....normal punishments do not work with him. Some things...well I have been told because I was dealing with two of them against one for a very long time...to pick my battles with the boys. David does get a few pops on his butt when he does something wrong and for the mouth....when it needs some cleaning out I was told to use vinegar. All I have to do is put some on my finger and rub it on his tongue and you would think I had murdered him...lol. Neither of these forms of punishment can cause me a problem with DCF as you can spank your child with your bare hand on his /her buttocks. As for the vinegar I was told that using hot sauce was a no no but vinegar is in many of the foods we eat and would not be abusive in nature to clean that bad mouth out. I recall a day not to long ago when I had told David before we even went into WalMart that I had only a small amount of money and I needed to get some things but would not be buying him a toy. As soon as we got into the store he started up and I just said "NO"...well with me about 15 ft behind him he was walking down the big isle behind the registers crying his eyes out. I saw an associate stop him and assume she asked him if he had lost his mommy because what I heard from him loudly was "NO, THERE SHE IS THE BIG FAT MEANIE!!" pointing back to me. Anyhow, those on the only two things that work with him. The pops on the butt....well he is not used to being popped on the butt and thinks his butt is bleeding when he gets one. Vinegar....all I have to do is say I am getting the bottle out and he shuts up. [/QUOTE]
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