My wife and I can not fiigure out how to dicipline our 8 yr old difficult child when he simply does not care about any consequence that we give him. Is it best to just let him run rampant over us and continue to destroy our home (hole in walls, broken doors, etc...)? I feel like I need to be more calm with him but feel like my wife needs to be more stearn with him. difficult child coniually calls my wife an Ass face, stupid, idiot, has told her that he is going to kill her, etc. He does not say any of those things to me; I washed his mouth out with soap (not a proud parenting moment!)and don't know if that is why I am sparred -somewhat- from the verbal abuse. Do you take things away from your child when he/she acts up? How do you discipline when they are in a fit of rage (or after the fit of rage as trying to do anything during the fit is useless.) I am wondering what has worked for others?