My 19 year old has reactive attachment disorder. Went to counseling for "2" years. Not much change. When she was 17 she spent time in Juvenile Detention for assaulting me and vandalizing my home. At 18 she moved in with her boyfriend...it did not work out. She wanted to come back and we gave her another try hoping for the best. What a disaster. She is so defiant and disrespectful. One incident had us call the police to remove her (19 is an adult in Delaware) Right in front of her he said too bad, you have to support her and you better work it out with her. Now she rules the house. Doesn't respond to positive reinforcement or taking away privledges. She is failing the 12th grade and her guidance counselor said she can repeat it. Called local police station and officer said the cop that came to our house was wrong and that we can evict her even though she is in high school. We are so nervous to call the police if she becomes out of control again. If another cop tells her we have to keep her, then we are dead meat! Also afraid that if we go to court they will just say get more counseling. Enough is enough. We put up with extreme abuse and emotional anxiety for 3 years. Help!! Any suggestions.