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How do you find joy?
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 604692" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>tinamarie1, you've gotten wonderful advice. I am so sorry. Where you are is where I've been and many here have been too. It's a devastating place to land, we know. I think Scent of Cedar and others covered everything beautifully, if you follow what they're suggesting, you will find your joy.</p><p></p><p>One thing I hear in your post and I suffered under as well is the notion that as long as your child is suffering, then how can you be happy? Think about it. Does it make any difference to your child that you are suffering a long with him? Does it make his suffering go away? Does your suffering in any way help or assist him? No. You can be there for him, support him, find him the best care and then you can take care of yourself as best you can by setting boundaries around his behavior........... And then go do things that make you happy. Do something every single day that brings you joy.........if you have to start small do so, but it's a practice......... practice every day............take long baths............long walks........sit in the sun.........go to lunch with a girlfriend........buy a new CD........buy a new dress...............have a massage.........ME time is invaluable. Go take it for yourself. You might get something out of the article on detachment at the bottom of my post. Sending you big hugs...............</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 604692, member: 13542"] tinamarie1, you've gotten wonderful advice. I am so sorry. Where you are is where I've been and many here have been too. It's a devastating place to land, we know. I think Scent of Cedar and others covered everything beautifully, if you follow what they're suggesting, you will find your joy. One thing I hear in your post and I suffered under as well is the notion that as long as your child is suffering, then how can you be happy? Think about it. Does it make any difference to your child that you are suffering a long with him? Does it make his suffering go away? Does your suffering in any way help or assist him? No. You can be there for him, support him, find him the best care and then you can take care of yourself as best you can by setting boundaries around his behavior........... And then go do things that make you happy. Do something every single day that brings you joy.........if you have to start small do so, but it's a practice......... practice every day............take long baths............long walks........sit in the sun.........go to lunch with a girlfriend........buy a new CD........buy a new dress...............have a massage.........ME time is invaluable. Go take it for yourself. You might get something out of the article on detachment at the bottom of my post. Sending you big hugs............... [/QUOTE]
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