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How do you get them to care for themselves???
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 131398"><p>I wish I didn't have to get work done tonight...great topic/thread...but I read the responses very quickly. Someone said that these kids can't "see the consequences of their actions," or inaction for that matter. With our difficult child this is often the case. The idea of consequence never enters her mind...or if it does...it is quickly dismissed. I think it is partially (in a small way) due to some entitlement issues. But I think much of her problem has to do with impulsivity. She just thinks and immediately responds. There is not enough time for a delay. It is frightening, because I think it is possible that in her case and in the case of many of these difficult children, that they could very well put their lives in great danger and do this repeatedly, if challenged. And of course, it is hard to rehabilitate a deceased difficult child. I think some difficult children have a decent probability of reform, while others have a lower probability. It's a tough call. We usually let our difficult child experience the consequences of her actions.And after our difficult child falls flat on her face, we do review the experience. We talk about the idea of "self preservation" and keeping safe and how she might do it differently next time. It seems to help a little...but how long it lasts is debatable. by the way, our difficult child is NOT taking care of herself when she gets a cold, etc. either. She even jumps right out of bed with Strep Throat.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 131398"] I wish I didn't have to get work done tonight...great topic/thread...but I read the responses very quickly. Someone said that these kids can't "see the consequences of their actions," or inaction for that matter. With our difficult child this is often the case. The idea of consequence never enters her mind...or if it does...it is quickly dismissed. I think it is partially (in a small way) due to some entitlement issues. But I think much of her problem has to do with impulsivity. She just thinks and immediately responds. There is not enough time for a delay. It is frightening, because I think it is possible that in her case and in the case of many of these difficult children, that they could very well put their lives in great danger and do this repeatedly, if challenged. And of course, it is hard to rehabilitate a deceased difficult child. I think some difficult children have a decent probability of reform, while others have a lower probability. It's a tough call. We usually let our difficult child experience the consequences of her actions.And after our difficult child falls flat on her face, we do review the experience. We talk about the idea of "self preservation" and keeping safe and how she might do it differently next time. It seems to help a little...but how long it lasts is debatable. by the way, our difficult child is NOT taking care of herself when she gets a cold, etc. either. She even jumps right out of bed with Strep Throat. [/QUOTE]
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