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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 502219" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>This is a very interesting thread to me. Until i read it, i did not realize that our druggie daughter was a compliant (we thought), loving angel until we shook ourselves out of denial and started trying to curb her behavior. Why do we always believe "it's just pot?" I have no answer, but I thought so too. Making her leave was the best thing we could have done for her and for us. Now to WP:</p><p></p><p>Are you sure Son is staying with sister in law when he says he is? Are you sure he isn't out partying and getting high and just SAYING he is staying with sister in law? Do you always check in with her? Is she somebody you can trust? The very first thing I thought of is, "He's lying. He's not staying with HER...he's doing something with drugs." This is from my own experience with a drug addict. Also, the Xanax...could be hubs; could be he got it from somewhere else, but your son is seriously involved in drugs. The fact is, they are usually far more steeped in drugs than we know or want to even think about. </p><p></p><p>Only you can make the decision whether or not he should stay or leave. I would go back to Al-Anon and keep talking to people in real time. He's getting to the age that you'd like him to go to rehab and quit or face the consequences of being a drug addict. You DON'T want him to still be in your house at age forty...in the same condition. I think it's best to ease them out and, if they get suddenly violent, force them out.</p><p></p><p>Do not have him pay you rent. EVER. Then he is a tenant and the laws may make it hard for you to evict him, even if you decide that you want him to leave!</p><p></p><p>Hugs and keep us posted!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 502219, member: 1550"] This is a very interesting thread to me. Until i read it, i did not realize that our druggie daughter was a compliant (we thought), loving angel until we shook ourselves out of denial and started trying to curb her behavior. Why do we always believe "it's just pot?" I have no answer, but I thought so too. Making her leave was the best thing we could have done for her and for us. Now to WP: Are you sure Son is staying with sister in law when he says he is? Are you sure he isn't out partying and getting high and just SAYING he is staying with sister in law? Do you always check in with her? Is she somebody you can trust? The very first thing I thought of is, "He's lying. He's not staying with HER...he's doing something with drugs." This is from my own experience with a drug addict. Also, the Xanax...could be hubs; could be he got it from somewhere else, but your son is seriously involved in drugs. The fact is, they are usually far more steeped in drugs than we know or want to even think about. Only you can make the decision whether or not he should stay or leave. I would go back to Al-Anon and keep talking to people in real time. He's getting to the age that you'd like him to go to rehab and quit or face the consequences of being a drug addict. You DON'T want him to still be in your house at age forty...in the same condition. I think it's best to ease them out and, if they get suddenly violent, force them out. Do not have him pay you rent. EVER. Then he is a tenant and the laws may make it hard for you to evict him, even if you decide that you want him to leave! Hugs and keep us posted! [/QUOTE]
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