husband is a mess when he's dealing with Eris this summer. Constantly snapping at her for stupid stuff. Making a bigger deal out of things than should be. Last night we went into Trader Joes for a second to get a few things. She grabbed a hand cart when I did. I think no big deal, she can carry it around, who is it hurting. husband told her to put it back and it set her off to be upset at him. The entire time in the store she was playing the game where she hides on the other side of me. THis just made husband more upset. I really don't care if she circles me in the store and moves around, as long as she stays next to me. husband wants her to sit still and not move at all. I keep telling him to stop acting that way and all he thinks is that I'm shutting him down (of course it's all about him right?). I'm not, I'm just trying to defuse the situation before it gets worse. I don't want a fight while I'm in line for food! He does these things all the time and is super controlling of her. It's all these little things that she does that just annoys him so he blows up on her unnecessarily. I keep telling him to calm down, stop yelling (not yelling, but being too stern), etc. I'm half way through "the explosive child" and it seems to be backing up what I thought all along - that he's too demanding of her, and wont' take the time to sit and talk to her about what's going on and instead just demands action. How do I get him to go along with the program? He says he'll read the book, but I'm not so sure he'll do it. Even if he does, I'm not sure if he'll belive it! Ugh.