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How do you handle clueless questions about your difficult child?
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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 374337" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">I usually respond with clueless answers...or lie, whichever seems right at the time and depending upon who I'm speaking with. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">I usually just say she's doing well and seems happy with herself. If they pry further for specifics, I pull out a well worn line, "Oh, you know, she's still young and has some things to figure out, but she's doing well" and then change the subject. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">I stopped caring what people felt they had a right to know about my kids, easy child or difficult child - seems everyone's a freakin' expert when it comes to someone else's kids, doesn't it?</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Unlike you, there were plenty of times I was embarrassed and yes, ashamed, of my difficult child, but I tried not to let that show. Why bare all? I remember Ann Landers advising that when people ask a nosy question, it's completely appropriate to respond with, "Oh, why would you ask that?" or "Why do you need to know?" - If people are rude enough to pry when they know perfectly well they are just prying, then I think we can be rude back to them. And when they start giving me unsolicited advice? I respond with, "Gee, thanks for the tip; I'll have to jot that down" and walk away. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">I think I may be a bit sensitive about this particular question because I just spent a week with H's family who basically feel that if you don't go to college for some sort of academic or humanitarian careeer, you must be a loser. Ugh.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Dash, just respond with any way you feel is appropriate and if you don't want to respond, figure out a generic response that suits you and stick with that!</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 374337, member: 2211"] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]I usually respond with clueless answers...or lie, whichever seems right at the time and depending upon who I'm speaking with. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]I usually just say she's doing well and seems happy with herself. If they pry further for specifics, I pull out a well worn line, "Oh, you know, she's still young and has some things to figure out, but she's doing well" and then change the subject. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]I stopped caring what people felt they had a right to know about my kids, easy child or difficult child - seems everyone's a freakin' expert when it comes to someone else's kids, doesn't it?[/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Unlike you, there were plenty of times I was embarrassed and yes, ashamed, of my difficult child, but I tried not to let that show. Why bare all? I remember Ann Landers advising that when people ask a nosy question, it's completely appropriate to respond with, "Oh, why would you ask that?" or "Why do you need to know?" - If people are rude enough to pry when they know perfectly well they are just prying, then I think we can be rude back to them. And when they start giving me unsolicited advice? I respond with, "Gee, thanks for the tip; I'll have to jot that down" and walk away. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]I think I may be a bit sensitive about this particular question because I just spent a week with H's family who basically feel that if you don't go to college for some sort of academic or humanitarian careeer, you must be a loser. Ugh.[/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Dash, just respond with any way you feel is appropriate and if you don't want to respond, figure out a generic response that suits you and stick with that![/COLOR][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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