Sorry to be so new and post yet another topic. I have posted a couple of topics already. Two/three main reasons my Niece is the way she is lately is because of Facebook/Internet, and her cell phone and her friend who has no boundaries or positive parenting in her life. I guess not the items themselves, but more the feeling of entitlement to them and the NEED to have them constantly. Do you think taking things away when a child misbehaves is effective, or counterproductive? Mom tried to disable her FB because she was posting highly degrading and inappropriate things about my Mom because she got mad at her. This isn't the first time, but this time was worse than normal. It backfired on us because it sent an email to her, telling her how to reactivate it. Oops. Didn't know it did that! Now she changed her password, and told me she'd give it to my Mom "eventually". Mom turned off her phone data plan. As of last night, Niece didn't realize this and just thinks that her phone is loading Facebook. Mom changed the passwords to log into all home computers and told the kids that the new rule is that there is limited computer time, and she will log them in when needed. Today after school, Niece wanted to use the computer. Mom said she would log in with the password for her. Niece apparently flipped out briefly, threw her cell phone and broke it. What do you do when you KNOW her hanging out with her best friend causes much of her behavior? When my mom tried to restrict my Sister from hanging out with her bad friends, she just did it more and got into more trouble. How do you handle your child throwing fits when they don't get their way? Many people have said to "hit em where it hurts" and take the things that mean the most to them, away until they behave. If they misbehave again after it is given back, take it away again, for longer. We are having trouble with my niece feeling entitled. I think the problem is, is that they haven't had appropriate boundaries or limits throughout their childhood. This is new for them. They are used to getting what they want, or someone not paying attention enough to know the difference (part of why they live with their grandparents). How would you go about handling this in the best way possible? We don't want to shock my Niece (or the others), into more rebellion. I am personally worried that the efforts we make to help correct her behavior are going to backfire and make her rebel more, and turn into her Mother who was constantly in trouble which has followed her throughout her life, to this present day. We need to do something that will adjust her behavior and feelings toward my Mom. It is highly destructive and hurtful. When she is mad, she says the mean things about Mom and calls her mean names BECAUSE she knows it hurts her.