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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 491420" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I didn't take it as you being against me or trying to be critical. It just seems like there's a disconnect between what I'm/difficult child is being faced with and what you are visualizing as the situation- and I'm presuming that's because of your previous experience with csu. I'm thinking your previous experience is nothing like what we are dealing with here, in this state's juvie csu and at this time frame.</p><p></p><p>And I'm sure that all the complicated mess with my son doesn't always get conveyed as simply as I wish I could put it across.</p><p></p><p>If difficult child goes to the group home, they 'might allow' me to take him to family therapy, out-pateient while he's there. That doesn't change their goal of getting him to independent living.</p><p></p><p>If he comes home, they most likely will order in-home 'family therapy' by someone who isn't even a therapist and i won't be able to change that or take him anywhere else for further MH treatment. Now while that doesn't sound harmful to a person who's difficult child has not become aggressive with them, I have felt the blunt of the blows, in more ways then one, and this approach makes difficult child more likely to reoffend, not less. They have told me he won't even get a MH evaluation unless THEY decide he needs one, whether he comes home or not. I had no idea they can do that but difficult child is still considered in the custody of Department of Juvenile Justice as long as he's on parole. So if they order a mentor to 'talk with difficult child about dv issues' and I want to take difficult child to a DV licensed therapist, too bad. difficult child gets the mentor and that's it and I of course, reap the consequences when it doesn't work and difficult child gets reincarcerated. This is where it ties into the point i was trying to make in the thread in the WC- there is a HUGE difference between a specialist evaling a person and then a court just montioring the success in that program's recommended treatment VS people in csu deciding what is needed, providing the minimum, dictating the treatment instead of going by a prof's or specialist's recommendations, not allowing more to be provided by the parent, etc.</p><p></p><p>These issues are one thing- me wanting, and feeling the need, to advocate for change in the juvy system is a different issue. It amazes me that more parents, in general, aren't speaking up about this.</p><p></p><p>I keep finding myself trying to explain it but you don't come back and appear to respond with an effort to understand what is going on with us or acknowledge anything other than my PTSD or efforts to get better for my son- not your experience or preconceived notions- but in our lives, so I do find that part a little less than supportive sometimes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 491420, member: 3699"] I didn't take it as you being against me or trying to be critical. It just seems like there's a disconnect between what I'm/difficult child is being faced with and what you are visualizing as the situation- and I'm presuming that's because of your previous experience with csu. I'm thinking your previous experience is nothing like what we are dealing with here, in this state's juvie csu and at this time frame. And I'm sure that all the complicated mess with my son doesn't always get conveyed as simply as I wish I could put it across. If difficult child goes to the group home, they 'might allow' me to take him to family therapy, out-pateient while he's there. That doesn't change their goal of getting him to independent living. If he comes home, they most likely will order in-home 'family therapy' by someone who isn't even a therapist and i won't be able to change that or take him anywhere else for further MH treatment. Now while that doesn't sound harmful to a person who's difficult child has not become aggressive with them, I have felt the blunt of the blows, in more ways then one, and this approach makes difficult child more likely to reoffend, not less. They have told me he won't even get a MH evaluation unless THEY decide he needs one, whether he comes home or not. I had no idea they can do that but difficult child is still considered in the custody of Department of Juvenile Justice as long as he's on parole. So if they order a mentor to 'talk with difficult child about dv issues' and I want to take difficult child to a DV licensed therapist, too bad. difficult child gets the mentor and that's it and I of course, reap the consequences when it doesn't work and difficult child gets reincarcerated. This is where it ties into the point i was trying to make in the thread in the WC- there is a HUGE difference between a specialist evaling a person and then a court just montioring the success in that program's recommended treatment VS people in csu deciding what is needed, providing the minimum, dictating the treatment instead of going by a prof's or specialist's recommendations, not allowing more to be provided by the parent, etc. These issues are one thing- me wanting, and feeling the need, to advocate for change in the juvy system is a different issue. It amazes me that more parents, in general, aren't speaking up about this. I keep finding myself trying to explain it but you don't come back and appear to respond with an effort to understand what is going on with us or acknowledge anything other than my PTSD or efforts to get better for my son- not your experience or preconceived notions- but in our lives, so I do find that part a little less than supportive sometimes. [/QUOTE]
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