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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 71226" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>If your parents are still drinking then you can't have a relationship with them yet, at least not one that is healthy. I understand the longing....I've been there myself. It took years of counseling for me to give up the idea of a perfect family.</p><p></p><p>My mom passed away about 12 years agoand dad is now 87, no longer drinking, and we have a good relationship. Don't give up because it can happen, but not until you get strong enough not to need them and they get strong enough to give up the insanity.</p><p></p><p>You have a wonderful family and it sounds like your husband is supportive. Build your family around that. You can never go back and make things different, you will never have the kind of childhood you long for, but you can make sure your kids do, you have a second chance.</p><p></p><p>Get support, go to alanon or if that isn't right for you find a support group on line for adult children of alcoholics. Go see a counselor who is experienced int his type of counseling.</p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry for your pain, I've beeN there. It took many years of counseling for my stomach not to get into knots everytime I went home.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 71226, member: 59"] If your parents are still drinking then you can't have a relationship with them yet, at least not one that is healthy. I understand the longing....I've been there myself. It took years of counseling for me to give up the idea of a perfect family. My mom passed away about 12 years agoand dad is now 87, no longer drinking, and we have a good relationship. Don't give up because it can happen, but not until you get strong enough not to need them and they get strong enough to give up the insanity. You have a wonderful family and it sounds like your husband is supportive. Build your family around that. You can never go back and make things different, you will never have the kind of childhood you long for, but you can make sure your kids do, you have a second chance. Get support, go to alanon or if that isn't right for you find a support group on line for adult children of alcoholics. Go see a counselor who is experienced int his type of counseling. I'm so sorry for your pain, I've beeN there. It took many years of counseling for my stomach not to get into knots everytime I went home. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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