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<blockquote data-quote="emotionallybankrupt" data-source="post: 368304" data-attributes="member: 8226"><p>Can you somehow think back to who you were and what kinds of activities you enjoyed before you had children? I've been working hard on that myself this summer. Remembering and reclaiming some of those pieces of myself that I left behind. </p><p> </p><p>In other phases of my life, I attended several grief workshops after deaths in the family, as well as divorce recovery programs when I was going through that. As I've finally had some quiet time to begin processing all that has happened with difficult child, I've realized that pieces of both types of workshops have stuck with me and helped, along with oher more obvious resources, such as this forum. I really feel that what I have now is a strange combination of grieving a type of death (of hopes, dreams, etc.) as well as a divorce of sorts (in need of the detachment strategies, etc.). To to answer you question about what has been helping me, I feel that I've been pulling together pieces of every coping mechanism I've ever learned. Like you, I am on medication, and it helps.</p><p> </p><p>I've been reading a lot in Joan Anderson's books this summer, and she has a lot to say about re-discovering the "self" you've left behind over the years. I think most important is to be patient with yourself and realize there is no "correct" timetable or path to take.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="emotionallybankrupt, post: 368304, member: 8226"] Can you somehow think back to who you were and what kinds of activities you enjoyed before you had children? I've been working hard on that myself this summer. Remembering and reclaiming some of those pieces of myself that I left behind. In other phases of my life, I attended several grief workshops after deaths in the family, as well as divorce recovery programs when I was going through that. As I've finally had some quiet time to begin processing all that has happened with difficult child, I've realized that pieces of both types of workshops have stuck with me and helped, along with oher more obvious resources, such as this forum. I really feel that what I have now is a strange combination of grieving a type of death (of hopes, dreams, etc.) as well as a divorce of sorts (in need of the detachment strategies, etc.). To to answer you question about what has been helping me, I feel that I've been pulling together pieces of every coping mechanism I've ever learned. Like you, I am on medication, and it helps. I've been reading a lot in Joan Anderson's books this summer, and she has a lot to say about re-discovering the "self" you've left behind over the years. I think most important is to be patient with yourself and realize there is no "correct" timetable or path to take. [/QUOTE]
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