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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 42097"><p>Yelling just escalates things with difficult child. AND because of her sensory issues she covers her ears. It just exacerbates it all the way around. I feel horrible when I lose it and yell. Especially after easy child's therapist explained the physiological reaction kids have to yelling. I don't remember the specific details of it, but I could probably google it when I'm feeling better and share it.</p><p></p><p>When difficult child is melting down I send her to her room. I let her have her meltdown, but it really works better for her to have her meltdown by herself. Then when she's done she comes back down and we talk. It's not punishment. It's that difficult child doesn't think and feel at the same time so there is no talking to her during a meltdown. I'm sure a lot of our kiddos are like that...where you look at them and can tell they've "checked out" for a bit. Also, she seems to recover sooner when she's alone in her room. Plus, it's not fair to easy child to have to put his life on hold when difficult child is melting down. Especially when we go through periods where she's melting down daily. But, sometimes getting her to her room is extremely difficult and she seems to only respond when I yell, "NOW!". I hate that. And everytime I beat myself up. </p><p></p><p>So, yeah, I'd take laughing over yelling everyday. Singing sometimes works, too. I'll sing the "lullaby" (it's not really a lullaby - it's Good King Wenceslas -sp-) that I used to sing to difficult child every night when she was younger. Or sometimes, I'll sing a silly song like, "Great green globs of greasy, grimy, gopher guts....", and make it more animated. Just depends on what kind of meltdown/rage she's having.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 42097"] Yelling just escalates things with difficult child. AND because of her sensory issues she covers her ears. It just exacerbates it all the way around. I feel horrible when I lose it and yell. Especially after easy child's therapist explained the physiological reaction kids have to yelling. I don't remember the specific details of it, but I could probably google it when I'm feeling better and share it. When difficult child is melting down I send her to her room. I let her have her meltdown, but it really works better for her to have her meltdown by herself. Then when she's done she comes back down and we talk. It's not punishment. It's that difficult child doesn't think and feel at the same time so there is no talking to her during a meltdown. I'm sure a lot of our kiddos are like that...where you look at them and can tell they've "checked out" for a bit. Also, she seems to recover sooner when she's alone in her room. Plus, it's not fair to easy child to have to put his life on hold when difficult child is melting down. Especially when we go through periods where she's melting down daily. But, sometimes getting her to her room is extremely difficult and she seems to only respond when I yell, "NOW!". I hate that. And everytime I beat myself up. So, yeah, I'd take laughing over yelling everyday. Singing sometimes works, too. I'll sing the "lullaby" (it's not really a lullaby - it's Good King Wenceslas -sp-) that I used to sing to difficult child every night when she was younger. Or sometimes, I'll sing a silly song like, "Great green globs of greasy, grimy, gopher guts....", and make it more animated. Just depends on what kind of meltdown/rage she's having. [/QUOTE]
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