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How do YOU stay calm in a difficult child meltdown
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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 100609" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>Hugs WW~</p><p></p><p>Initially, when difficult child was younger it was very difficult not to get sucked in by her rages, her badgering, her shadowing. Ugh!! It was maddening to be followed by her everywhere I went and her back and forth between hating me and needing me to hug her. I would feel guilty for not hugging her but hate myself for being sucked into the hug and getting hurt by her again.</p><p></p><p>As she grew and we received some counseling, I learned to do that flat thing that everyone has mentioned I guess. I tried to remain neutral in stance, language, voice, reprimands, and even consequences. That helped a lot but there were times when I felt like I was stuffing my emotions to such an extent I would explode myself. </p><p></p><p>Eventually, leaving the house worked some as she didn't follow me so much - but usually SHE WOULD LEAVE FIRST! Then I was torn between enjoying the moment of peace or leaving myself to find her. At first I would run after her, but then I sort of figured that at 15, 16, 17, 18, she's old enough to take care of herself and call me if there were a real emergency.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 100609, member: 2211"] Hugs WW~ Initially, when difficult child was younger it was very difficult not to get sucked in by her rages, her badgering, her shadowing. Ugh!! It was maddening to be followed by her everywhere I went and her back and forth between hating me and needing me to hug her. I would feel guilty for not hugging her but hate myself for being sucked into the hug and getting hurt by her again. As she grew and we received some counseling, I learned to do that flat thing that everyone has mentioned I guess. I tried to remain neutral in stance, language, voice, reprimands, and even consequences. That helped a lot but there were times when I felt like I was stuffing my emotions to such an extent I would explode myself. Eventually, leaving the house worked some as she didn't follow me so much - but usually SHE WOULD LEAVE FIRST! Then I was torn between enjoying the moment of peace or leaving myself to find her. At first I would run after her, but then I sort of figured that at 15, 16, 17, 18, she's old enough to take care of herself and call me if there were a real emergency. [/QUOTE]
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