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<blockquote data-quote="Alttlgabby" data-source="post: 266276" data-attributes="member: 6786"><p>Thanks ladies for your replies. As for the Ramen Noodles, yes, they ARE an issue with ME (something that *I need to work through). A lot of it has to do with the fact that these poor kids had nothing BUT Ramen Noodles when they were younger and while living with their Mom. They are very high in sodium as well. My problem is not so much with her having snacks; my problem mostly lies with the fact that she is sneaking them and the reason that she threw the snack on the top shelf was that she thought she was going to be caught. I don't mind her having the snack, but I would like her to ASK because she is not the best at timing it and would try to get one 5 minutes before I am going to prepare dinner. I do not have a lot of unhealthy things in the pantry for her to eat really. I had one bag of suckers that I had bought for us to take somewhere one day and we didn't even eat the stupid things. They have been in there for at least a month or so! LOL The oreos were a one time thing and they have been in there as well for at least 3 weeks because I bought them when their sister was here visiting. I do keep cheez its in there all the time though. And my parents brought Little Debbie snacks from where they live a couple of months ago. They are only allowed one of those a day because they are so sweet. And for the most part, they DO make healthy choices as far as snacking goes. </p><p>We did do a LOT of talking in therapy yesterday and I had a really good cry. difficult child 1 not too long ago would not make eye contact in therapy and outside of, or even try to participate. She withdrew and locked down. She is sooo much better, so for her to even admit to me that it WAS her that did and to admit that she has been sneaking food is a huge milestone! We started talking in therapy and as I said, I knew it was bad with their Mom, but I didn't realize just HOW bad. Apparently, there were nights that these poor babies went to bed without even eating!!! I swear, I wanted to punch a wall, and had their Mom been there at the moment I just might have punched her! One more thing to add to the pile of things she has done to these children! difficult child 1 said that she was sometimes afraid (anxious!) that she would come home here one day and that there wouldn't be any food in the pantry. So, we did talk and I told her that she never has to worry about that. We would ALWAYS make sure that she has food. That the state pays me to help take care of her and if I had to take that money to make sure she had a meal, then that is what I would do. I told her that if she was hungry, she just needed to tell me and I would allow her a snack. Together we could decide just how hungry she really is and determine if she needed a small snack right then if it was too close to dinner and get her a little something so she didn't feel full, but just something to tide her over. Or that she was feeling anxious and we can talk about it. So, we are trying to work on this issue together. At least she is talking. She has made such great progress in the last year of being in our home.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Alttlgabby, post: 266276, member: 6786"] Thanks ladies for your replies. As for the Ramen Noodles, yes, they ARE an issue with ME (something that *I need to work through). A lot of it has to do with the fact that these poor kids had nothing BUT Ramen Noodles when they were younger and while living with their Mom. They are very high in sodium as well. My problem is not so much with her having snacks; my problem mostly lies with the fact that she is sneaking them and the reason that she threw the snack on the top shelf was that she thought she was going to be caught. I don't mind her having the snack, but I would like her to ASK because she is not the best at timing it and would try to get one 5 minutes before I am going to prepare dinner. I do not have a lot of unhealthy things in the pantry for her to eat really. I had one bag of suckers that I had bought for us to take somewhere one day and we didn't even eat the stupid things. They have been in there for at least a month or so! LOL The oreos were a one time thing and they have been in there as well for at least 3 weeks because I bought them when their sister was here visiting. I do keep cheez its in there all the time though. And my parents brought Little Debbie snacks from where they live a couple of months ago. They are only allowed one of those a day because they are so sweet. And for the most part, they DO make healthy choices as far as snacking goes. We did do a LOT of talking in therapy yesterday and I had a really good cry. difficult child 1 not too long ago would not make eye contact in therapy and outside of, or even try to participate. She withdrew and locked down. She is sooo much better, so for her to even admit to me that it WAS her that did and to admit that she has been sneaking food is a huge milestone! We started talking in therapy and as I said, I knew it was bad with their Mom, but I didn't realize just HOW bad. Apparently, there were nights that these poor babies went to bed without even eating!!! I swear, I wanted to punch a wall, and had their Mom been there at the moment I just might have punched her! One more thing to add to the pile of things she has done to these children! difficult child 1 said that she was sometimes afraid (anxious!) that she would come home here one day and that there wouldn't be any food in the pantry. So, we did talk and I told her that she never has to worry about that. We would ALWAYS make sure that she has food. That the state pays me to help take care of her and if I had to take that money to make sure she had a meal, then that is what I would do. I told her that if she was hungry, she just needed to tell me and I would allow her a snack. Together we could decide just how hungry she really is and determine if she needed a small snack right then if it was too close to dinner and get her a little something so she didn't feel full, but just something to tide her over. Or that she was feeling anxious and we can talk about it. So, we are trying to work on this issue together. At least she is talking. She has made such great progress in the last year of being in our home. [/QUOTE]
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