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How much does his show of arrogance need to cost him before he learns?
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 564116" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>My big worry is that even though difficult child is trying his best, he may be very close to the line where he can't cope any more. And unfortunately he has many maladaptive coping mechanisms in his sleeve. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/sad-very.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sad-very:" title="sad-very :sad-very:" data-shortname=":sad-very:" /> Or he can come up with the new ones. It isn't really helping him, that his natural way of dealing with being scared is to imitate hedgehogs' defence mechanism, rolling into a ball, protruding the quills and hissing. And unfortunately many people don't even see it like that at least before he is so cornered and desperate that it comes very obvious. Until that it is easy to misinterpret that he is just giving the attitude, not giving a s*** and being arrogant.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Luckily what is happening to difficult child is in much, much, much smaller scale. But still it isn't fun. Ask any athlete and they will tell you that they don't read what press writes about them and they certainly are not visiting message boards or checking what people twitter about them. Most of them are lying. And it certainly does sting.</p><p></p><p>It is kind of silly but before I never really thought athletes or other celebrities people just like rest of us, with parents, siblings, SOs, kids etc. It was when difficult child was eight or nine and there was a son of a very well-known local athlete in the team. Same sport his dad played, very uncommon surname. And other kids, older kids and at times even adults were commenting to this kid his dad's performances, and I mean also bad ones. Once there was an away game in a smaller town an hour away and this boy wasn't having his best game. An assistant coach of the opposing team (probably a dad of one of their players) started to yell to this boy about how bad he was and how he was only in our team because of his dad. And how in their team something like that would never happened. And jeez, they really were eight-year-olds. As an only mom present (it was my turn to be one of the chaperones) it of course ended up my job to console this sobbing boy and explain to him that the other team coach was out of the line, talking stupid and untrue things and being naughty. Made me really wonder. And now that my own child has a smallest bit of fame and is under that kind of scrutiny it really hits home.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 564116, member: 14557"] My big worry is that even though difficult child is trying his best, he may be very close to the line where he can't cope any more. And unfortunately he has many maladaptive coping mechanisms in his sleeve. :2sad: Or he can come up with the new ones. It isn't really helping him, that his natural way of dealing with being scared is to imitate hedgehogs' defence mechanism, rolling into a ball, protruding the quills and hissing. And unfortunately many people don't even see it like that at least before he is so cornered and desperate that it comes very obvious. Until that it is easy to misinterpret that he is just giving the attitude, not giving a s*** and being arrogant. Luckily what is happening to difficult child is in much, much, much smaller scale. But still it isn't fun. Ask any athlete and they will tell you that they don't read what press writes about them and they certainly are not visiting message boards or checking what people twitter about them. Most of them are lying. And it certainly does sting. It is kind of silly but before I never really thought athletes or other celebrities people just like rest of us, with parents, siblings, SOs, kids etc. It was when difficult child was eight or nine and there was a son of a very well-known local athlete in the team. Same sport his dad played, very uncommon surname. And other kids, older kids and at times even adults were commenting to this kid his dad's performances, and I mean also bad ones. Once there was an away game in a smaller town an hour away and this boy wasn't having his best game. An assistant coach of the opposing team (probably a dad of one of their players) started to yell to this boy about how bad he was and how he was only in our team because of his dad. And how in their team something like that would never happened. And jeez, they really were eight-year-olds. As an only mom present (it was my turn to be one of the chaperones) it of course ended up my job to console this sobbing boy and explain to him that the other team coach was out of the line, talking stupid and untrue things and being naughty. Made me really wonder. And now that my own child has a smallest bit of fame and is under that kind of scrutiny it really hits home. [/QUOTE]
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