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How much does his show of arrogance need to cost him before he learns?
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 564252" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>That is something to think at. Not interviews though, those he does okay, knows the jargon and is able to say all the right things. It is probably because those are not that scary. And mostly he is not even interviewed when he does badly, both his team and his age protects him from that. Reporters know they would look bad if they harassed a kid who is already almost in tears. If the team does badly they usually interview the player who still did well or the captain or just coaches, if everyone was bad. And even if interviewed after the bad game, reporters are not too mean to him and he knows he will do just fine with that standard jargon.</p><p></p><p>But there are lots of people around the team, junior teams practising in the same arena they are, parents of those juniors, coaches etc. of those teams, just random people who know people in the team or are close enough to think they know. People watching practises etc. And those are the people difficult child shows his more arrogant side. And it for example really doesn't take many times of difficult child arguing during the practises with his positional coach to make it seem to casual observers that he is 'uncoachable' or that he isn't willing to do the work or take instructions. His coach does know him and knows that those times are more often miscommunication or that difficult child needs more time to process what is asked or suggested. They are able to work through those things, but it takes time and some patience. So it is true that difficult child isn't ideally coachable and difficulties with him tend to be more loud and obvious to someone just observing the practises than many other more common coachability issues. And yes, his positional coach is at times ready to throttle difficult child and is more than tired of his attitude, but he also feels he is able to handle difficult child and is willing to work with him. Even if that means that at times he needs to discipline difficult child quite often (and at times harshly.) But the outsider can more easily see the difficult child's rebellion, not that part there they work those things out.</p><p></p><p>And when some of those people come to talk to him, in the best case he is very reserved, in the worst case he comes off total a**hat.</p><p></p><p>And of course when difficult child is doing badly in the field it is easy to look those issues they can see in worst possible light. And of course all the old stories come up. And difficult child certainly has been doing things he certainly shouldn't had in the past.</p><p></p><p>But yes, it could be useful to somehow get him see how he comes off to those people. Because as I said, he can come off just fine when it is for example structured interview. And with for example social media he is surprisingly good. It is those random, unexpected situations there he meets people he doesn't know when he comes off as awful.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 564252, member: 14557"] That is something to think at. Not interviews though, those he does okay, knows the jargon and is able to say all the right things. It is probably because those are not that scary. And mostly he is not even interviewed when he does badly, both his team and his age protects him from that. Reporters know they would look bad if they harassed a kid who is already almost in tears. If the team does badly they usually interview the player who still did well or the captain or just coaches, if everyone was bad. And even if interviewed after the bad game, reporters are not too mean to him and he knows he will do just fine with that standard jargon. But there are lots of people around the team, junior teams practising in the same arena they are, parents of those juniors, coaches etc. of those teams, just random people who know people in the team or are close enough to think they know. People watching practises etc. And those are the people difficult child shows his more arrogant side. And it for example really doesn't take many times of difficult child arguing during the practises with his positional coach to make it seem to casual observers that he is 'uncoachable' or that he isn't willing to do the work or take instructions. His coach does know him and knows that those times are more often miscommunication or that difficult child needs more time to process what is asked or suggested. They are able to work through those things, but it takes time and some patience. So it is true that difficult child isn't ideally coachable and difficulties with him tend to be more loud and obvious to someone just observing the practises than many other more common coachability issues. And yes, his positional coach is at times ready to throttle difficult child and is more than tired of his attitude, but he also feels he is able to handle difficult child and is willing to work with him. Even if that means that at times he needs to discipline difficult child quite often (and at times harshly.) But the outsider can more easily see the difficult child's rebellion, not that part there they work those things out. And when some of those people come to talk to him, in the best case he is very reserved, in the worst case he comes off total a**hat. And of course when difficult child is doing badly in the field it is easy to look those issues they can see in worst possible light. And of course all the old stories come up. And difficult child certainly has been doing things he certainly shouldn't had in the past. But yes, it could be useful to somehow get him see how he comes off to those people. Because as I said, he can come off just fine when it is for example structured interview. And with for example social media he is surprisingly good. It is those random, unexpected situations there he meets people he doesn't know when he comes off as awful. [/QUOTE]
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