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How Much is Too Much Oversight?
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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 138737" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Peter,</p><p> </p><p>If you could do a signature (under "user CP" upper lefthand corner of the screen), it would help us ... ahem, more "mature" and memory-impaired members keep your details straight. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p> </p><p>I seem to recall you have a teen? 13 or 14? I have to tell you, in my mind I think like you do, but in practice I have a *really* hard time not being like your wife. It's just this quarter that I've finally backed off a bit on my own 13 y/o - and I *know* his report card is going to be a real problem.</p><p> </p><p>I think there's a fine balance. At some point, our kids have to learn to be accountable and responsible for their own stuff, and sometimes it takes some logical consequences to get their attention. I could stay on Weeburt nightly about homework, and check the webgrader site daily, but to what end, besides my own nervous breakdown and his incredibly irritating "Mom I have it under control" snottiness? *He* has to start stepping up and so far, it's definitely been a learning experience for him with a *lot* of goofs.</p><p> </p><p>For the most part, school stuff stays at school. The exception is that there is a "price" for unlimited video game/computer access at home and that is acceptable report cards. He knows what we expect, what we will grudgingly accept, and what will result in a severe limitation on the quality of his freetime. His choice, his problem. </p><p> </p><p>I'm willing to let him flounder a bit now, because the grades are not as important as they will be once he hits HS. I honestly don't know how I handle it if he continues to goof off once he gets there - guess I'm just praying he'll get it together before then. But I strongly believe that if I keep on him daily, he will never have the opportunity to fail and learn and then succeed.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 138737, member: 8"] Peter, If you could do a signature (under "user CP" upper lefthand corner of the screen), it would help us ... ahem, more "mature" and memory-impaired members keep your details straight. ;) I seem to recall you have a teen? 13 or 14? I have to tell you, in my mind I think like you do, but in practice I have a *really* hard time not being like your wife. It's just this quarter that I've finally backed off a bit on my own 13 y/o - and I *know* his report card is going to be a real problem. I think there's a fine balance. At some point, our kids have to learn to be accountable and responsible for their own stuff, and sometimes it takes some logical consequences to get their attention. I could stay on Weeburt nightly about homework, and check the webgrader site daily, but to what end, besides my own nervous breakdown and his incredibly irritating "Mom I have it under control" snottiness? *He* has to start stepping up and so far, it's definitely been a learning experience for him with a *lot* of goofs. For the most part, school stuff stays at school. The exception is that there is a "price" for unlimited video game/computer access at home and that is acceptable report cards. He knows what we expect, what we will grudgingly accept, and what will result in a severe limitation on the quality of his freetime. His choice, his problem. I'm willing to let him flounder a bit now, because the grades are not as important as they will be once he hits HS. I honestly don't know how I handle it if he continues to goof off once he gets there - guess I'm just praying he'll get it together before then. But I strongly believe that if I keep on him daily, he will never have the opportunity to fail and learn and then succeed. [/QUOTE]
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