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<blockquote data-quote="TheyAreLegallyAdultsNow" data-source="post: 346213" data-attributes="member: 8405"><p>With difficult child-daughter she started REALLY showing her true colors at age 6, 3 months after placement. </p><p></p><p>difficult child-DS had peculiarities through out, I'd ask others about my concerns, but got all kinds of "boys will be boys" excuses. I wish I had followed my gut much earlier on!!!! But... compared to his bio-sibling, he was a piece of cake. </p><p></p><p>He had an unusually mean stubborn streak but he was placed age 2.5 and we chalked it up to "terrible twos."</p><p></p><p>He didn't slow down when he got tired... just the opposite. The more and more "hyper" he got, the more he DESPERATELY needed sleep. </p><p></p><p>He also gets very mean (cruel) when he is sleep deprived. He seems to do best on 10 hours of sleep a night! I told him about 2 years ago if as an adult he ever stops and wonders why he's being so out-of-character hateful and cruel that he'd do well to make sure he gets extra sleep because it is one thing he has definitely not outgrown. (Personality is a true night and day difference)</p><p></p><p>As a much older child he continued to have bathroom "accidents-on-purpose" we were told..."boys are difficult to toilet train"</p><p></p><p>He developed amazing "passive defiant" skills... he'd say "yes" and never follow through... "Oh, I forgot!"</p><p></p><p>He seemed so unmotivated as a younger teen at opportunities to earn money. "That's how boys are these days" people would tell us. To me he seemed depressed. I didn't know any boys (other than my son) who would turn down opportunities to earn money. </p><p></p><p>About 2 years ago we caught him in a series of lies and discovered how truly gifted he is at lying without blinking. He can appear so believably sincere! </p><p></p><p>He remains officially undiagnosed, (he's 18 now, we have no rights anymore) but I wouldn't be at all surprised if he would be found to have the "inhibited" form of his sister's mental illness.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TheyAreLegallyAdultsNow, post: 346213, member: 8405"] With difficult child-daughter she started REALLY showing her true colors at age 6, 3 months after placement. difficult child-DS had peculiarities through out, I'd ask others about my concerns, but got all kinds of "boys will be boys" excuses. I wish I had followed my gut much earlier on!!!! But... compared to his bio-sibling, he was a piece of cake. He had an unusually mean stubborn streak but he was placed age 2.5 and we chalked it up to "terrible twos." He didn't slow down when he got tired... just the opposite. The more and more "hyper" he got, the more he DESPERATELY needed sleep. He also gets very mean (cruel) when he is sleep deprived. He seems to do best on 10 hours of sleep a night! I told him about 2 years ago if as an adult he ever stops and wonders why he's being so out-of-character hateful and cruel that he'd do well to make sure he gets extra sleep because it is one thing he has definitely not outgrown. (Personality is a true night and day difference) As a much older child he continued to have bathroom "accidents-on-purpose" we were told..."boys are difficult to toilet train" He developed amazing "passive defiant" skills... he'd say "yes" and never follow through... "Oh, I forgot!" He seemed so unmotivated as a younger teen at opportunities to earn money. "That's how boys are these days" people would tell us. To me he seemed depressed. I didn't know any boys (other than my son) who would turn down opportunities to earn money. About 2 years ago we caught him in a series of lies and discovered how truly gifted he is at lying without blinking. He can appear so believably sincere! He remains officially undiagnosed, (he's 18 now, we have no rights anymore) but I wouldn't be at all surprised if he would be found to have the "inhibited" form of his sister's mental illness. [/QUOTE]
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