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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 152745" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Nomad,</p><p></p><p>I've found that in this type of situation, the usual polite forms don't seem to make it through. Some people have found that bad behaviour WILL get them their way, because other people are not willing to confront them, or less willing to push the limits of appropriate social behaviour, so they get away with it.</p><p></p><p>Sending a clear, unequivocal signal that you will not put up with it will sometimes resolve the matter. If that doesn't work, then you have a case for taking it up with your manager or HR or something.</p><p></p><p>Years ago I had a co-worker who was notorious for pushing other people's boundaries and behaving inappropriately. At one point, he made a very suggestive comment and called me a (yuck) endearment (think "Toots", although that wasn't it). In a room full of people. I just stopped in my tracks, and said "Don't ever speak to me like that again."</p><p></p><p>A few weeks later in a team meeting, he used a racial epithet that was clearly targeted at me, as I was the only one of that race in the room. Again, I called him on it, directly, and in front of the room full of our teammates.</p><p></p><p>He left me alone after that. (The guy later got fired for embezzling money from the company. He truly was a difficult child)</p><p></p><p>I'm not sure if this parallels your situation in any way, but I hope that you can find something useful in it.</p><p></p><p>Hope you don't have to put up with the boundary crossing much longer.</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 152745, member: 3907"] Nomad, I've found that in this type of situation, the usual polite forms don't seem to make it through. Some people have found that bad behaviour WILL get them their way, because other people are not willing to confront them, or less willing to push the limits of appropriate social behaviour, so they get away with it. Sending a clear, unequivocal signal that you will not put up with it will sometimes resolve the matter. If that doesn't work, then you have a case for taking it up with your manager or HR or something. Years ago I had a co-worker who was notorious for pushing other people's boundaries and behaving inappropriately. At one point, he made a very suggestive comment and called me a (yuck) endearment (think "Toots", although that wasn't it). In a room full of people. I just stopped in my tracks, and said "Don't ever speak to me like that again." A few weeks later in a team meeting, he used a racial epithet that was clearly targeted at me, as I was the only one of that race in the room. Again, I called him on it, directly, and in front of the room full of our teammates. He left me alone after that. (The guy later got fired for embezzling money from the company. He truly was a difficult child) I'm not sure if this parallels your situation in any way, but I hope that you can find something useful in it. Hope you don't have to put up with the boundary crossing much longer. Trinity [/QUOTE]
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