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How to deal with the constant obsessing/fixation?
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<blockquote data-quote="KFld" data-source="post: 43709" data-attributes="member: 2442"><p>My difficult child was always like that. You know what cured it?? He's out on his own and paying his own bills, so now he thinks twice about what he wants and needs because he's the one buying it, not us. I think most of his came from the fact that he learned early on that his obsessing and manipulating got him what he wanted. Yup!! If he kept it up long enough mommy couldn't stand it anymore and would just give in to shut him up!! He still to this day can't save for anything ahead of time. He would get something in his head and couldn't wait until allowance day, so he got in the habit, with my help <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" />, of constantly borrowing his allownce to get something. He is now 20 and I see how that hurt him. Every week his paycheck is spent before he gets it and he's usually borrowing from his roommates or his boss until his next paycheck.</p><p></p><p>I don't know if that is anything close to how it works in your house, but I know that is what happened in mine. I know it's so hard to not give in when they get on something because their badgering can drive you right up a wall, but learning to save money and not always getting what they want is a great life lesson to teach them when they are younger.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="KFld, post: 43709, member: 2442"] My difficult child was always like that. You know what cured it?? He's out on his own and paying his own bills, so now he thinks twice about what he wants and needs because he's the one buying it, not us. I think most of his came from the fact that he learned early on that his obsessing and manipulating got him what he wanted. Yup!! If he kept it up long enough mommy couldn't stand it anymore and would just give in to shut him up!! He still to this day can't save for anything ahead of time. He would get something in his head and couldn't wait until allowance day, so he got in the habit, with my help :), of constantly borrowing his allownce to get something. He is now 20 and I see how that hurt him. Every week his paycheck is spent before he gets it and he's usually borrowing from his roommates or his boss until his next paycheck. I don't know if that is anything close to how it works in your house, but I know that is what happened in mine. I know it's so hard to not give in when they get on something because their badgering can drive you right up a wall, but learning to save money and not always getting what they want is a great life lesson to teach them when they are younger. [/QUOTE]
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