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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 539376"><p>I have to agree with the others in that you need to let go of the resentment. Some people NEED to have everything in their life be just right. There is no room for imperfection so they don't tolerate it. Others, can't handle having their "beliefs" shattered so refuse to hear that things aren't as they want them to be or think they are. Who knows what your parents' reasons were for what they did. Like I tell my kids, "It's done, it's over, and there's nothing you can do about it now." They made a huge mistake, your belief, but there is nothing they can do about it now. Trying to make them admit this many years later they made a huge mistake (providing they are willing to admit it or even believe it) isn't going to change the past. YOU'VE done it and should be proud of it. YOU'VE changed your future by doing what you've done. Continuing to throw it back at them (as they probably see it) is only 1) angering them because they didn't do anything wrong or 2) making them feel guilty for their mistake. If they won't own up to it, there is nothing you can do and it is obvious that they aren't going to. You need to find a way to get past the blame.</p><p></p><p>I am a firm believer that things turn out the way they are supposed to. Maybe being in the armed services wasn't meant to be. Obviously you've gained a lot of knowledge through your experiences. There is a reason that you just don't know yet. Is there a way you can use your experiences to help others? Can you see how your experiences have made YOU who you are today? Use that experience and be proud of what YOU'VE accomplished. I admire your determination and stamina. My guess is that this experience has made you stronger, more "observant", seen how disabiltiies can affect a person's whole life, suffered from lack of appropriate services (many of us are fighting schools for what our kids NEED), and still came out on top. The past is the past. They are who they are. YOU can't change either one. </p><p></p><p>Thanks for sharing your story.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 539376"] I have to agree with the others in that you need to let go of the resentment. Some people NEED to have everything in their life be just right. There is no room for imperfection so they don't tolerate it. Others, can't handle having their "beliefs" shattered so refuse to hear that things aren't as they want them to be or think they are. Who knows what your parents' reasons were for what they did. Like I tell my kids, "It's done, it's over, and there's nothing you can do about it now." They made a huge mistake, your belief, but there is nothing they can do about it now. Trying to make them admit this many years later they made a huge mistake (providing they are willing to admit it or even believe it) isn't going to change the past. YOU'VE done it and should be proud of it. YOU'VE changed your future by doing what you've done. Continuing to throw it back at them (as they probably see it) is only 1) angering them because they didn't do anything wrong or 2) making them feel guilty for their mistake. If they won't own up to it, there is nothing you can do and it is obvious that they aren't going to. You need to find a way to get past the blame. I am a firm believer that things turn out the way they are supposed to. Maybe being in the armed services wasn't meant to be. Obviously you've gained a lot of knowledge through your experiences. There is a reason that you just don't know yet. Is there a way you can use your experiences to help others? Can you see how your experiences have made YOU who you are today? Use that experience and be proud of what YOU'VE accomplished. I admire your determination and stamina. My guess is that this experience has made you stronger, more "observant", seen how disabiltiies can affect a person's whole life, suffered from lack of appropriate services (many of us are fighting schools for what our kids NEED), and still came out on top. The past is the past. They are who they are. YOU can't change either one. Thanks for sharing your story. [/QUOTE]
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