I have a hard time explaning manster's diagnosis to others. There are times I want to let them know that he is the way he is for a reason. Mostly I just want for them to give him a wee bit of slack for his behavior and maybe not be so judgemental of me and maybe, just maybe consider it might not all be bad parenting. Though I certainly could have done, and will continue to try to do, better. Manster does not present as AS. At all. Also, most people expect swearing and major contortionsism (if that is a word) when I say Tourette's. ADHD is a no brainer and most people can wrap their minds around it so I use it a lot. What he presents as is a brat. And he is that too. I say no way too often to avoid meltdowns and that looks like weak parenting. That's my parental failing/weakness and what I am working on. Mostly it's none of their business and I can't control others' opinions of us. But I don't feel the pressing need to tell everyone I meet, just those that are fairly close to us. Currently manster has regressed with anxiety. He was able to stay at home while we went to the store for an hour and now it's an issue again. He doesn't want to go with us (that would require leaving the house) and he will beg and badger for one of us to stay with him and I often give in. God grant me the energy and strength to do this.