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How to have fun with easy child? Ideas and suggestions wellcomed!
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 549563" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Just to minimize your concern about time spent with your son, I was reading your post and remembering many years ago when my daughter was about 15, we ran into some "teenage snags" and we both went to a therapist trained in teen issues. It was very informal and different, since teens will often sit there sullen and indifferent while the parent is so earnest and involved. I can look back on it now and smile because now I know a lot more and that "face" they all seem to perfect, particularly the girls is priceless. Anyway, I was concerned because we were no longer spending "quality" time together, after being so close before, this teenage landscape didn't seem to have much room for me in it. The therapist told me to just try to sneak in a little time each week where she and I could connect, just like you are thinking about now. She said, at this point, provide her with a harbor where she knows she's moored but can safely venture out from. It allowed me to let go, something I now realize is so much a part of parenting anyway. </p><p></p><p>I like the idea of going out for coffee and a snack when the timing works for both of you. Those impromptu moments which arise naturally are often the most treasured in our memories with our parents and children. Driving him to his events is another opportunity for that connection, I see that with my granddaughter who is also 16. Every now and again we have one of those moments where it all clicks in and she is available and engaged and we really connect. Those are very special for me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 549563, member: 13542"] Just to minimize your concern about time spent with your son, I was reading your post and remembering many years ago when my daughter was about 15, we ran into some "teenage snags" and we both went to a therapist trained in teen issues. It was very informal and different, since teens will often sit there sullen and indifferent while the parent is so earnest and involved. I can look back on it now and smile because now I know a lot more and that "face" they all seem to perfect, particularly the girls is priceless. Anyway, I was concerned because we were no longer spending "quality" time together, after being so close before, this teenage landscape didn't seem to have much room for me in it. The therapist told me to just try to sneak in a little time each week where she and I could connect, just like you are thinking about now. She said, at this point, provide her with a harbor where she knows she's moored but can safely venture out from. It allowed me to let go, something I now realize is so much a part of parenting anyway. I like the idea of going out for coffee and a snack when the timing works for both of you. Those impromptu moments which arise naturally are often the most treasured in our memories with our parents and children. Driving him to his events is another opportunity for that connection, I see that with my granddaughter who is also 16. Every now and again we have one of those moments where it all clicks in and she is available and engaged and we really connect. Those are very special for me. [/QUOTE]
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