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how to prepare for difficult child to come out of rehab?
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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 111885" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>Grace,</p><p>you don't sound loony! Your example was great! Jmama, my dtr was in 3 rehabs and each time she sure did talk the talk while she was there. She was underage so we had to let her come home when she was released and each time she relapsed despite her great intentions. I so agree with the other posters here--let him come to you, don't make it easy for him. </p><p></p><p>We too had a younger dtr and it did not work out having difficult child 1 come home after these rehab stints--it really upset her to have her sister living with us and disrupting things and just the anxiety her being at home caused everyone was very hard on her. I can't imagine that having him home after all these years won't affect her, no matter how hard you try to keep things normal.</p><p></p><p>So, I guess this isn't very encouraging but if there is any way he can not come to your house I think it is for the best. I have a feeling that any way you help him will end up being enabling rather than truly helpful to his recovery. You can't take on the responsibility of him staying clean, only he can do that. I think in another post you said he said something like he would need to be watched--if that is his mindset he is not dedicated to his recovery. It is not your responsibility to watch him.</p><p></p><p>Let us know how things go, thinking of you, sorry you are in this position,</p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 111885, member: 3450"] Grace, you don't sound loony! Your example was great! Jmama, my dtr was in 3 rehabs and each time she sure did talk the talk while she was there. She was underage so we had to let her come home when she was released and each time she relapsed despite her great intentions. I so agree with the other posters here--let him come to you, don't make it easy for him. We too had a younger dtr and it did not work out having difficult child 1 come home after these rehab stints--it really upset her to have her sister living with us and disrupting things and just the anxiety her being at home caused everyone was very hard on her. I can't imagine that having him home after all these years won't affect her, no matter how hard you try to keep things normal. So, I guess this isn't very encouraging but if there is any way he can not come to your house I think it is for the best. I have a feeling that any way you help him will end up being enabling rather than truly helpful to his recovery. You can't take on the responsibility of him staying clean, only he can do that. I think in another post you said he said something like he would need to be watched--if that is his mindset he is not dedicated to his recovery. It is not your responsibility to watch him. Let us know how things go, thinking of you, sorry you are in this position, Jane [/QUOTE]
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