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How to recover ourselves after difficult child-induced trauma?
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<blockquote data-quote="JKF" data-source="post: 595757" data-attributes="member: 12470"><p>OMG Barbara! You just described me to a "T". I'm basically difficult child's secretary whether he knows it or not. It's ME who makes 99% of the calls to get things straight for him. Seriously - it's almost a full time job on TOP of my other full time jobs - graphic designer, wife, and mother! Uggggh!!!</p><p></p><p>And I ask myself - WHY do I do all of this work for him? Is it beneficial to him? Shouldn't he be doing these things himself?</p><p></p><p>I need to start letting him handle his own life or he'll never learn. I've started with stepping back from this latest situation and letting him deal full on with the consequences of his actions. I admit - I have made some calls on his behalf but he doesn't know that and he won't. It's more for my own peace of mind. I need to step back more and I'm working on that. He needs to start putting some effort into HIS life. I can't be the only one doing all of the work. I have a life of my own and I need to realize that I'm wasting it by trying to fix all of his troubles for him.</p><p></p><p>So trust me - I totally get where you are coming from! Sending BIG hugs your way and lots of support!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JKF, post: 595757, member: 12470"] OMG Barbara! You just described me to a "T". I'm basically difficult child's secretary whether he knows it or not. It's ME who makes 99% of the calls to get things straight for him. Seriously - it's almost a full time job on TOP of my other full time jobs - graphic designer, wife, and mother! Uggggh!!! And I ask myself - WHY do I do all of this work for him? Is it beneficial to him? Shouldn't he be doing these things himself? I need to start letting him handle his own life or he'll never learn. I've started with stepping back from this latest situation and letting him deal full on with the consequences of his actions. I admit - I have made some calls on his behalf but he doesn't know that and he won't. It's more for my own peace of mind. I need to step back more and I'm working on that. He needs to start putting some effort into HIS life. I can't be the only one doing all of the work. I have a life of my own and I need to realize that I'm wasting it by trying to fix all of his troubles for him. So trust me - I totally get where you are coming from! Sending BIG hugs your way and lots of support!!!! [/QUOTE]
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