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How to recover ourselves after difficult child-induced trauma?
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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 596781" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>That's exactly it. For so long I sort of let things happen. I pushed back a bit, but I gave in way too easily. And, yes,</p><p> there is a lot of PTSD even now. But... When I first felt <em>real fear</em> for Inky... She was (and is) so small and helpless... I knew I had to fortify the spine I'd let soften. Because I could not allow her to be hurt - and that meant teaching her that love doesn't mean letting people walk all over you.</p><p></p><p>Jett seemed a little flummoxed to begin with, because he hadn't seen that side of me. husband is delighted. And... They are both straightening their own spines, coming out from under their protective shells. Because now it is OKAY.</p><p></p><p>Still, I have moments. This morning I got up and the front door, back door, basement door were all unlocked. With Onyxx's burglar-boyfriend knowing where we live... This makes me NERVOUS. I am still finding little things that are mere annoyances but push me past that instantaneously - because they're leftover from before (like the stuff stuck inside the unwashed blender Wednesday - I think it might have been crackers, cheese and something else; or the necklace I found behind a switch plate in Onyxx's old room). Jett wants me to hold on to his cash and softball tokens so they won't get stolen... I have dreams that she is back. I love her. But I will NOT be a victim. I will NOT teach Inky to be a victim.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 596781, member: 6705"] That's exactly it. For so long I sort of let things happen. I pushed back a bit, but I gave in way too easily. And, yes, there is a lot of PTSD even now. But... When I first felt [I]real fear[/I] for Inky... She was (and is) so small and helpless... I knew I had to fortify the spine I'd let soften. Because I could not allow her to be hurt - and that meant teaching her that love doesn't mean letting people walk all over you. Jett seemed a little flummoxed to begin with, because he hadn't seen that side of me. husband is delighted. And... They are both straightening their own spines, coming out from under their protective shells. Because now it is OKAY. Still, I have moments. This morning I got up and the front door, back door, basement door were all unlocked. With Onyxx's burglar-boyfriend knowing where we live... This makes me NERVOUS. I am still finding little things that are mere annoyances but push me past that instantaneously - because they're leftover from before (like the stuff stuck inside the unwashed blender Wednesday - I think it might have been crackers, cheese and something else; or the necklace I found behind a switch plate in Onyxx's old room). Jett wants me to hold on to his cash and softball tokens so they won't get stolen... I have dreams that she is back. I love her. But I will NOT be a victim. I will NOT teach Inky to be a victim. [/QUOTE]
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