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How to recover ourselves after difficult child-induced trauma?
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<blockquote data-quote="elizabrary" data-source="post: 597490" data-attributes="member: 11235"><p>I have been very successful about detaching. It is one reason I am not on here much- I don't want to get sucked back into my difficult children vortex of destruction and prefer maintaining my focus on myself and my life. That being said, there is still pain, sadness, guilt that goes along with detaching, but over all I'm in a much better place. Recently I have been very good about responding neutrally when I talk to my daughter. She says crazy stuff and in the past I would have to give a lecture, which would start a useless argument. Now I just respond with, "Hope that works out for you" or some other neutral response and just keep going. Yes, I do cry when I get off the phone sometimes, but then I refocus on me. I DO NOT do things she should be doing for herself, and she has learned to stop asking for the most part. It's really hard to watch them self-destruct and do nothing, but it really is the best way for everyone involved. They won't learn until they're ready and trying to stop the inevitable drives us crazy in the process. Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="elizabrary, post: 597490, member: 11235"] I have been very successful about detaching. It is one reason I am not on here much- I don't want to get sucked back into my difficult children vortex of destruction and prefer maintaining my focus on myself and my life. That being said, there is still pain, sadness, guilt that goes along with detaching, but over all I'm in a much better place. Recently I have been very good about responding neutrally when I talk to my daughter. She says crazy stuff and in the past I would have to give a lecture, which would start a useless argument. Now I just respond with, "Hope that works out for you" or some other neutral response and just keep going. Yes, I do cry when I get off the phone sometimes, but then I refocus on me. I DO NOT do things she should be doing for herself, and she has learned to stop asking for the most part. It's really hard to watch them self-destruct and do nothing, but it really is the best way for everyone involved. They won't learn until they're ready and trying to stop the inevitable drives us crazy in the process. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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