Hi all, OK I am struggling once again with not enabling my son, or as my therapist would say staying out of his business. This is a very hard one for me right now. I get when he is being really out of control how to not enable him and let him get in trouble and let the chips fall where they may. I have done that and i will do it again. What I am struggling with now is he is doing a lot better. He took some really good steps, did the school work to get his diploma. We let him come back home and within a week he got a job! Which is huge because in the previous 2 years he had not done that. He has been working the last two weeks. So progress is happening. I am getting that i should not remind him to get up in the morning that if he loses his job that is yet another hard lesson. That is very hard for me to do. This morning he has a court date. It is so stupid because he has 10 hours of comm serv and then the case is dismissed. Gone. He has done the comm serv so all he has to do is go and show the court he has done it!!! Very simple, very easy. If he does not show up good chance they will put out a warrant fo his arrest. Very stupid to let that happen. So I just went into to remind him. He said he knows and rolled over and went back to sleep. I know I have to now walk away and I will.....but jeez louise can't he just get up and get going? I want him to succeed and get through this so much but I guess I just can't want it more than he does. I have to let go and let him do it and if that means messing up (once again) then so be it. OK I am off to work.... and will try and just forget about it and see what happens. How do the rest of you do this when your kids are doing better? I am finding it much harder to detach now that he is making progress.