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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 239905" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>Whether he's kidding or not about something he's doing or saying to someone else, the reaction it causes in that person is what's important. He needs to understand that ANYTHING he does, kidding or not, that causes pain or distress to another person is NOT O.K. It's all about establishing boundaries and sticking to them. I think I would decide on a plan of action for consequences he earns whenever he does something hurtful that he tries to pass off as a "just kidding" act. Tell him up front what is going to happen (loss of privilege, extra chore, whatever) and then get ready to implement consistently. No warnings. Just respond with the consequence whenever it happens. You can review each incident after he serves his penalty and ask for feedback on what he can do to prevent it from happening next time.</p><p> </p><p>Hopefully, if he is made fully aware of the ramifications and then you follow through, over time he will stop. And hopefully you won't have too huge of a meltdown because of this. That doesn't mean you won't have resistance at first. I would fully expect a major hissy fit the first few times you implement the consequence. But it should taper off after some time.</p><p> </p><p>Anyway, that's just my 2 cents. Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 239905, member: 3444"] Whether he's kidding or not about something he's doing or saying to someone else, the reaction it causes in that person is what's important. He needs to understand that ANYTHING he does, kidding or not, that causes pain or distress to another person is NOT O.K. It's all about establishing boundaries and sticking to them. I think I would decide on a plan of action for consequences he earns whenever he does something hurtful that he tries to pass off as a "just kidding" act. Tell him up front what is going to happen (loss of privilege, extra chore, whatever) and then get ready to implement consistently. No warnings. Just respond with the consequence whenever it happens. You can review each incident after he serves his penalty and ask for feedback on what he can do to prevent it from happening next time. Hopefully, if he is made fully aware of the ramifications and then you follow through, over time he will stop. And hopefully you won't have too huge of a meltdown because of this. That doesn't mean you won't have resistance at first. I would fully expect a major hissy fit the first few times you implement the consequence. But it should taper off after some time. Anyway, that's just my 2 cents. Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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