For those that remember me...just a quick update on my son..and I better not jinx it typing this on here! lol. He is doing really well. Straight A's in school...no longer considered Learning Disability (LD). Almost 15! wow...where did the time go? Still on medications for anxiety and his ADHD but doing really well. (has a girlfriend even..) Me I am just getting older and fatter...er...I mean out of shape..yea that is it..heh. I am sure my sig is out of date so ignore that. I am posting about one of my sister's adopted son's..the youngest who is 19 and bipolar...has a boarder line IQ of 80 due to his biomom drinking and doing drugs when she was carrying him. Also delusional at times, violent at times, and has Asperger. For many years they thought he just had ADHD and a severe learning disability. Its just been in the last few years my sister got a more accurate diagnosis of him. Fast forward the usually stuff...dropped out of school..(told to leave basically as he only showed up for lunch and to start fights), lost good apartment my sister set him up in (he was too abusive towards her to have him continue staying there) wandered around..constantly mixed up with the wrong kind of people...lived with whomever felt sorry for him and took him in...ended up in jail for three months all charges finally dropped and now here..in our town and my mom and her husband are trying desperately to help him. They first tried getting him into a hospital to get him back on medications..hospital wouldn't take him unless he was suicidal or about to kill someone. Many appointments made, changed, cancelled due to this or that..its been insane! etc, etc...and here several weeks later he is still not on medications, not welcomed at his mom's house (call her and left a message cussing her out for not answering his billion calls to her) or mom and Rich's house because of bad things he did. very bad thing. Of course he has had years of therapy...didn't act any better while on medications so my burning question here is this...if we can take him to court and have him declared incompetent...is there any placement out there for people like him at all? He really needs 24 hours 7 day a week supervision. He is getting disability but hasn't been able to understand what its really for. He is constantly losing his debit card (or rather his 'friends' steal it and wipe out his account) loses his ID card, etc, etc. He is unable to handle living some place alone and paying bills or doing normal things we all do day to day to keep things running. He is great at lying, being sneaky, doing perverted things and getting himself into trouble. I am just afraid the medications won't help that much...if they do they can't make him smarter. If we managed to get him into the hospital they longest they keep them anymore is three to five days...but he could get set up with a case worker (which he did have and drove crazy before), a medication dr and so forth...he had all those before and it didn't do one bit of good. So I am wondering if there is a group home or any place for people like him that aren't just mentally ill but just not capable of truly taking care of themselves. Thanks! (I tried to condenses..I know you all know the 'story'..so why type a book?). Also his mom is now in control of his money and Rich..my mom's husband only gives him a little at a time to keep things under control. Without an ID card he can't have a debit card anyway. they have him set up in one of those weekly hotel room things...you know pay by the week things. Not in the best part of town but its the best they can do right now. I have search and searched the net and I can't find any place for disabled adults...group homes or something. Surely there is something out there.