BusynMember
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I'm happy about our decision. There are multiple reasons for us wanting to do it, and all are compelling.
First of all , I really don't have any grandkids that I see. I'd love to have kids around sometimes. We'd only take one at a time for various periods of time and I'm putting the age we'd like to foster from 3-5 (ideally)...kid can be either sex or any race or combination of races and practice any religion (we will help the child remain in his religion). We will also feel good dealing with the young parents. They are young enough to be our own difficult children...lol. When we did it last time, they weren't all that much younger than us. Another thing is, hub and I have an insatiable love of helping people. And we wouldn't have to have a foster child all the time, like we did before. Adoption is not an interest of ours. We are too old. Another reason we want to do this is because we have had experience with drug addicted children and autism and feel we could help them perhaps more than those who don't understand how these problems affect kids. I understand attachment disorder too and so many younger foster parents don't get that one at all...they think if you just love them enough...haha.
Secondly, I won't lie...the money is good. And it used to not count as income (maybe now it does). It would make our lives financially free so that, in between, we could travel and have some relief from debt. I talked to the head of foster care and told her we were moving to a mobile home park and she said that as long as we had enough bedrooms, that was fine.
Probably most of you think we're nuts, but we AREN'T adopting, we can say no to any child, and we aren't going to take teens. Well, there are a few exceptions on the teen front. If the teen doesn't act out violently and is pregnant or has been discarded by family due to sexual orientation, we are fine with that. violent kids of all ages are not something we want to deal with. Tantrums, sure. Swearing, fine. Violence...nope.
There is such a need for all sorts of foster parents.
Christmas will be a lot more fun if we have our own little person around at the time.
I am all juiced about this right now, even though it's about 1 1/2 years down the road. Just wanted to share.
First of all , I really don't have any grandkids that I see. I'd love to have kids around sometimes. We'd only take one at a time for various periods of time and I'm putting the age we'd like to foster from 3-5 (ideally)...kid can be either sex or any race or combination of races and practice any religion (we will help the child remain in his religion). We will also feel good dealing with the young parents. They are young enough to be our own difficult children...lol. When we did it last time, they weren't all that much younger than us. Another thing is, hub and I have an insatiable love of helping people. And we wouldn't have to have a foster child all the time, like we did before. Adoption is not an interest of ours. We are too old. Another reason we want to do this is because we have had experience with drug addicted children and autism and feel we could help them perhaps more than those who don't understand how these problems affect kids. I understand attachment disorder too and so many younger foster parents don't get that one at all...they think if you just love them enough...haha.
Secondly, I won't lie...the money is good. And it used to not count as income (maybe now it does). It would make our lives financially free so that, in between, we could travel and have some relief from debt. I talked to the head of foster care and told her we were moving to a mobile home park and she said that as long as we had enough bedrooms, that was fine.
Probably most of you think we're nuts, but we AREN'T adopting, we can say no to any child, and we aren't going to take teens. Well, there are a few exceptions on the teen front. If the teen doesn't act out violently and is pregnant or has been discarded by family due to sexual orientation, we are fine with that. violent kids of all ages are not something we want to deal with. Tantrums, sure. Swearing, fine. Violence...nope.
There is such a need for all sorts of foster parents.
Christmas will be a lot more fun if we have our own little person around at the time.
I am all juiced about this right now, even though it's about 1 1/2 years down the road. Just wanted to share.