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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 83903" data-attributes="member: 99"><p><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"></p><p>So from now on when he calls and tells me he had to much to drink, or did any of these child like behaviors that he keeps repeating, I need to tell him that I don't want to hear about it. This will cause him to have to face these choices he's made and look at himself in the mirror. The only thing I'm doing by lecturing him, is allowing him not to have to do that.</p><p> </div></div></p><p></p><p>Boy, oh boy do I ever know what you are talking about! How are you supposed to be intimate with someone who can't even figure out how to bring the garbage can up from the curb without being reminded even though he walks past it 6 or 8 times? With my husband, it's getting him to take on any role of homeowner/household member on his own. He even lies to me and tells me that he has done things when it is clear that he hasn't. </p><p></p><p>The one that makes me maddest to this day is when I asked him to sweep and mop one Saturday about two or three years ago. Weekend household chores has always been an issue. After all, it's his house too, and I generally get as far as I can then load up on narcotic pain relievers which make me ill. I was busy running loads of laundry (mostly his), ironing his work clothes, cleaning bathrooms, etc. He had been pestering me all morning for s e x. (Didn't know if it would get past the censor.) I heard him with the broom, and went about my business. I walked past the computer room and he is playing World of Warcraft, so I asked him if he swept and mopped. "Yes." So, I finally give in and find a moment to take a break and be with him. We're settling in and I realize that it usually takes me about an hour and a half to sweep and mop the entire house, and he only seemed to have done it in about 20 minutes. I ask him again if he swept and mopped the whole house, because it doesn't seem like he had enough time to do it all. "Yes." Fast forward half an hour, and I am back about doing the laundry, he is playing World of Warcraft. I notice the mop is bone dry. There's dog hair in every corner of the room. "Are you sure you swept and mopped?" "Yes." "Then why is the mop dry and there's dog hair all over?" "Uh... I didn't actually mop and I didn't sweep the whole house." This was a total betrayal. I'm so hurt and embarrassed by it that I haven't even told the therapist about it. husband <em>knows</em> I have left it out of the story to keep him from looking like a total jerk. Of course at the time he got a big lecture from me. </p><p></p><p>I know this is me trying to get into their heads, but maybe they wait for the lecture because they see this as their punishment or consequence for their misbehavior. Because let me tell you, this was <em>far from</em> the last time I asked him to sweep and mop and even specifically pointed out mounds of dog hair and dirt when he didn't do it and lied to me about it. It's not drinking, it's World of Warcraft. I would never trade one for the other, though.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 83903, member: 99"] <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> So from now on when he calls and tells me he had to much to drink, or did any of these child like behaviors that he keeps repeating, I need to tell him that I don't want to hear about it. This will cause him to have to face these choices he's made and look at himself in the mirror. The only thing I'm doing by lecturing him, is allowing him not to have to do that. </div></div> Boy, oh boy do I ever know what you are talking about! How are you supposed to be intimate with someone who can't even figure out how to bring the garbage can up from the curb without being reminded even though he walks past it 6 or 8 times? With my husband, it's getting him to take on any role of homeowner/household member on his own. He even lies to me and tells me that he has done things when it is clear that he hasn't. The one that makes me maddest to this day is when I asked him to sweep and mop one Saturday about two or three years ago. Weekend household chores has always been an issue. After all, it's his house too, and I generally get as far as I can then load up on narcotic pain relievers which make me ill. I was busy running loads of laundry (mostly his), ironing his work clothes, cleaning bathrooms, etc. He had been pestering me all morning for s e x. (Didn't know if it would get past the censor.) I heard him with the broom, and went about my business. I walked past the computer room and he is playing World of Warcraft, so I asked him if he swept and mopped. "Yes." So, I finally give in and find a moment to take a break and be with him. We're settling in and I realize that it usually takes me about an hour and a half to sweep and mop the entire house, and he only seemed to have done it in about 20 minutes. I ask him again if he swept and mopped the whole house, because it doesn't seem like he had enough time to do it all. "Yes." Fast forward half an hour, and I am back about doing the laundry, he is playing World of Warcraft. I notice the mop is bone dry. There's dog hair in every corner of the room. "Are you sure you swept and mopped?" "Yes." "Then why is the mop dry and there's dog hair all over?" "Uh... I didn't actually mop and I didn't sweep the whole house." This was a total betrayal. I'm so hurt and embarrassed by it that I haven't even told the therapist about it. husband [i]knows[/i] I have left it out of the story to keep him from looking like a total jerk. Of course at the time he got a big lecture from me. I know this is me trying to get into their heads, but maybe they wait for the lecture because they see this as their punishment or consequence for their misbehavior. Because let me tell you, this was [i]far from[/i] the last time I asked him to sweep and mop and even specifically pointed out mounds of dog hair and dirt when he didn't do it and lied to me about it. It's not drinking, it's World of Warcraft. I would never trade one for the other, though. [/QUOTE]
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