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husband is a JERK!! I would use another word but Im a lady.
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<blockquote data-quote="gwenny" data-source="post: 252546" data-attributes="member: 6852"><p>Ok so I went to my friends house last night and slept there as I just felt like I was done. I looked at a few places and of course they were either to expensive or just plain nasty. So today I went and saw 2 places and 1 is not available until 4/15, and this was perfect. Oh well the search begins again tomorrow.</p><p></p><p>So I came home this morning in time for the meeting with all these people. 2 therapists, 1 care advocate, 1 counselor (for me) The boss of all the people and 1 guy who is respite services for difficult child. So I gave the meeting a shot and try (out of the love I still have for husband) seeing as this was scheduled already. </p><p></p><p>I gave them the discharge papers from the hospital which stated that the DR STRONGLY RECOMMENDS Residential Treatment Center (RTC). The boss stated that the hospital could have placed difficult child in the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) straight from the hospital..(just great).. So she says we have to do the intense therapy where there is a therapist (intensive) who comes in 3 days a week and the respite guy 3 days a week and 1 counselor for me 2 times a week. I said I don't want to be disrespectful but is this gonna guarantee me sons, and my life??? The room went quiet. (guess no one could answer that one)..</p><p></p><p>They said difficult child don't have a criminal record!!! Yeah because we have not pressed charges as Juvie is not for the mentally ill and we were trying to keep him away from this as its only going to make the problems worse..</p><p>The boss lady said that she was going to call the insurance company with the discharge papers and hope for the best.</p><p></p><p>So this care advocate stated I want to go over the 12 principals with you!! </p><p>I said great I wanted to go over that with you as well....I SLAMMED THEM ALL!!!! I pulled out my copy of the principles and a lawsuit against the state of AZ stateing that they are to provide these 12 things and I said we are not getting them. (they were in shock and couldnt believe that I had that info) They said to me good for you now you know what you have to do. I told them I already contacted WASHINGTON Difficult Child already and got a call back and they will look into it.(i didnt tell them that part lol).</p><p>So for now I have at least 1 person coming in the home everyday MON- SAT.</p><p></p><p>Ok now for husband he is a jerk, but he is a jerk that I do love. We have been together for 12 years and married for 3 1/2 years. We had a great marriage up until the day that difficult child got off the plane. (that was the start to a wonderful life). I do not expect my husband to choose between me and difficult child because if the roles were reversed we all know the kids win because they need us. It just fustrated me that he gave him the b-day gifts because it was just dumb art supplies which he has already!! so did he really feel that he got rewarded for the **** he just caused and is still causing??? I just think that the timing was off is all, and after I said no he did it anyway so why bother asking me if your already going to do it anyway. I agree this makes me look like the monster in the family and husband gets dipped in poop and once again comes out smelling like roses.</p><p></p><p>husband knows what difficult child is doing and I just feel he is allowing him to do it. So like I told the people today that my marriage is pretty much over as this is too much and I cannot live like this. I gave copies of everything to everyone. They were all in agreement that he does not belong here and belongs in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). </p><p></p><p>So now I am going ahead with leaving ASAP. I feel this is the best choice for my son and me and I am taking the dog too. My husband and I used to be able to talk but lately anything I say is taken out of context and spun around to make me out to a monster. When I left last night I turned off husband's cell and left him a message that say's " I have given you 12 great years stuck by you through thick and thin good times and bad money and no money if you see me as a monster or servant than you have the wrong woman. I hope this seperation will help you think and see clearly. We have both said and done things were no proud of but enough hurting for both. If this is the best we can do than I want to walk out now before I HATE you.</p><p></p><p>Sorry for the long rant!! I appreciate all the advise and sometimes when your angry you are not seeing clearly.</p><p></p><p>I cannot Thank you enough your support is so greatly appreciated.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gwenny, post: 252546, member: 6852"] Ok so I went to my friends house last night and slept there as I just felt like I was done. I looked at a few places and of course they were either to expensive or just plain nasty. So today I went and saw 2 places and 1 is not available until 4/15, and this was perfect. Oh well the search begins again tomorrow. So I came home this morning in time for the meeting with all these people. 2 therapists, 1 care advocate, 1 counselor (for me) The boss of all the people and 1 guy who is respite services for difficult child. So I gave the meeting a shot and try (out of the love I still have for husband) seeing as this was scheduled already. I gave them the discharge papers from the hospital which stated that the DR STRONGLY RECOMMENDS Residential Treatment Center (RTC). The boss stated that the hospital could have placed difficult child in the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) straight from the hospital..(just great).. So she says we have to do the intense therapy where there is a therapist (intensive) who comes in 3 days a week and the respite guy 3 days a week and 1 counselor for me 2 times a week. I said I don't want to be disrespectful but is this gonna guarantee me sons, and my life??? The room went quiet. (guess no one could answer that one).. They said difficult child don't have a criminal record!!! Yeah because we have not pressed charges as Juvie is not for the mentally ill and we were trying to keep him away from this as its only going to make the problems worse.. The boss lady said that she was going to call the insurance company with the discharge papers and hope for the best. So this care advocate stated I want to go over the 12 principals with you!! I said great I wanted to go over that with you as well....I SLAMMED THEM ALL!!!! I pulled out my copy of the principles and a lawsuit against the state of AZ stateing that they are to provide these 12 things and I said we are not getting them. (they were in shock and couldnt believe that I had that info) They said to me good for you now you know what you have to do. I told them I already contacted WASHINGTON Difficult Child already and got a call back and they will look into it.(i didnt tell them that part lol). So for now I have at least 1 person coming in the home everyday MON- SAT. Ok now for husband he is a jerk, but he is a jerk that I do love. We have been together for 12 years and married for 3 1/2 years. We had a great marriage up until the day that difficult child got off the plane. (that was the start to a wonderful life). I do not expect my husband to choose between me and difficult child because if the roles were reversed we all know the kids win because they need us. It just fustrated me that he gave him the b-day gifts because it was just dumb art supplies which he has already!! so did he really feel that he got rewarded for the **** he just caused and is still causing??? I just think that the timing was off is all, and after I said no he did it anyway so why bother asking me if your already going to do it anyway. I agree this makes me look like the monster in the family and husband gets dipped in poop and once again comes out smelling like roses. husband knows what difficult child is doing and I just feel he is allowing him to do it. So like I told the people today that my marriage is pretty much over as this is too much and I cannot live like this. I gave copies of everything to everyone. They were all in agreement that he does not belong here and belongs in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). So now I am going ahead with leaving ASAP. I feel this is the best choice for my son and me and I am taking the dog too. My husband and I used to be able to talk but lately anything I say is taken out of context and spun around to make me out to a monster. When I left last night I turned off husband's cell and left him a message that say's " I have given you 12 great years stuck by you through thick and thin good times and bad money and no money if you see me as a monster or servant than you have the wrong woman. I hope this seperation will help you think and see clearly. We have both said and done things were no proud of but enough hurting for both. If this is the best we can do than I want to walk out now before I HATE you. Sorry for the long rant!! I appreciate all the advise and sometimes when your angry you are not seeing clearly. I cannot Thank you enough your support is so greatly appreciated. [/QUOTE]
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