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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 96239" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>13 is a crappy age. It doesn't even matter whether your child is a difficult child or not. It's a crappy age.</p><p>If father and son didn't have a great relationship before it isn't going to get better.</p><p>Personally I realized I can't be responsible for husband's feelings for his son or son's feelings for dad. It's entirely normal in the day to day living with a difficult child to want to give up, to be sick of them. They are a lot of work, a lot of stress and a lot of worry. Not much coming back either. </p><p>Hopefully as adults we understand that the return on parenting is a long range goal and not an immediate one. </p><p>Let your husband have his feelings. The best you can do is present other ways of looking at it. </p><p>difficult child needs to be reminded how hard your husband works to help him and that is due respect. We never know if any of it gets through but it may plant the seed. </p><p></p><p>Counseling is a good idea but maybe even an adoptive parent support group would be a help. Something where dads can talk to dad's about their particular issues with their kids. It's non threatening. </p><p></p><p>There were many a day I wanted to walk away. I never deny that I occasionally having feelings that aren't terribly nurturing to my son. I get up the next morning and try again to be the parent I promised myself I would be.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 96239, member: 3"] 13 is a crappy age. It doesn't even matter whether your child is a difficult child or not. It's a crappy age. If father and son didn't have a great relationship before it isn't going to get better. Personally I realized I can't be responsible for husband's feelings for his son or son's feelings for dad. It's entirely normal in the day to day living with a difficult child to want to give up, to be sick of them. They are a lot of work, a lot of stress and a lot of worry. Not much coming back either. Hopefully as adults we understand that the return on parenting is a long range goal and not an immediate one. Let your husband have his feelings. The best you can do is present other ways of looking at it. difficult child needs to be reminded how hard your husband works to help him and that is due respect. We never know if any of it gets through but it may plant the seed. Counseling is a good idea but maybe even an adoptive parent support group would be a help. Something where dads can talk to dad's about their particular issues with their kids. It's non threatening. There were many a day I wanted to walk away. I never deny that I occasionally having feelings that aren't terribly nurturing to my son. I get up the next morning and try again to be the parent I promised myself I would be. [/QUOTE]
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